Does anyone know of a counselor in Ann Arbor / Detroit who (1) will not automatically try to talk a victim of betrayal into a divorce, and (2) will be willing to use antidepressants?
Thanks

ree180,

Most counselors do all they can to help a couple avoid divorce. Why are you concerned about this?

As for anti-depressants, all a depressed person needs to do is have a frank discussion with their own medical doctor and he or she will prescribe anti-depressants. Most counselors are not medical doctors and they can't prescribe meds.

Don't be afraid or ashamed to approach your doctor. They have heard the infidelity story many times over and they are very understanding.

Welcome to marriagebuilders. You can get counseling right here. Please let us know more of what is going on.

We have all been through this and may be able to help you.

Perspectives of Troy is a wonderful counseling center. They operate from a Christian view but will not push that on you. I have counseled with Elaine and she has really helped. They have many counselors who specialize in everything from sexual addictions to depression, codependency, marriage, bi-polar, self-injury, teens, marriage, etc. If you have further questions about them(or if anyone else in this area does) email me at kfkmck@aol.com. They also have a psychiatrist on staff who can prescribe anti-depressants. Their telephone # is 248-244-8644.

It would be more convenient to talk on the phone with S. harley. You Dr. can precribe you the anti-D. That is what I did.

Thank you for you help. I should have explained that it is not me but my sister-in-law who is in crisis in Ann Arbor now (actually Canton). But I was in crisis five years ago. It was my husband who was depressed and my husband who had the affair. I see the same signs in her as I did in him, and I suspect that her depression had a role in her husband's infidelity. You don't get much back from a depressed person other than criticism and negativity. My own experience is that we saw many counselors for 10 years, none of whom recognized my husband's depression or recommended treatment. Then, when the affair happened, I went to counselor after counselor who told me to drop the bum. I'm so glad I didn't. While the affair was the worst thing that has ever happened to me, it provided the impetus to finally recognize my husband's depression and get it treated. The change has been miraculous! We live far away from my sister-in-law, but I hope I can find someone who can turn her crisis into an opportunity. Predictably, she herself is not looking to see things from her husband's eyes or to make things work. But they have a nine-year-old daughter, whom they both love, and I believe her husband is a good man at heart. Again, thank you for your references.