I removed the original messege for security purposes.

<small>[ March 06, 2004, 09:18 AM: Message edited by: lost-without-her ]</small>

Edited...ty Orchid;)

<small>[ March 06, 2004, 05:14 PM: Message edited by: Nina too ]</small>

Regardless of OMs reason, your W should want to come back to her family. Rejection by the OP is not a good way to come back.

(edited by Orchid).

L.

<small>[ March 06, 2004, 02:51 PM: Message edited by: Orchid ]</small>

OK - post deleted for privacy's sake. I wish you the best.

LIR

<small>[ March 06, 2004, 01:06 PM: Message edited by: Lady_In_Red ]</small>

The info I wrote earlier was deleted because it may not have been legal to write. I don't know. Too much reading to find the answers...

Anyway, WW hasn't said anything about reconciliation. I don't know what her plans are. I know she moved and has changed her phone number and it is unlisted. I don't want her to come back because of what I wrote, but hopefully she'll realize what she has done was a big mistake. The OM was a piece of poop all along and this just goes on to prove it....

I read what you wrote earlier.

Do you suppose she knows that her 'boyfriend' has a new 'sweetie' that he is now wooing?

Yep, you just might have a good chance of getting back with your wife when she realizes what a faithful guy she has in you!

Love, Julie

LWH,

But you want her back as your W not as a WS trailing pieces of that poop somewhere on her anatomy. Right?

So whether the OM is a smelly scumbag or not, she needs to clean up her act and you deserve nothing less than a remorseful xws who wants the chance to earn your trust and respect back to be your W.

I should clarify that at one point when my WS wanted to come home with less than what we deserved, I did tell him that he smelled. The A had left a stench on him that while physically had not real traces, emotionally it did and I told him I could not have that stench in my home.

He kept asking me if he smelled. That was a start of sorts. I sniffed the air and each time he showed progress, I told him he reeked less.

Use the tools at your disposal. Learn to identify what you can use and learn how to use them. That little sniffer of mine sure worked good. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

JMHO,
L.

<small>[ March 06, 2004, 01:14 PM: Message edited by: Orchid ]</small>

Right now I don't want WW back without some serious resolutions. However, her new found freedom may agree with her and she may never want to come back. That is her choice. I am happy that she is no longer with OM...

I did a bad thing, or maybe a good thing, but with bad intentions. I emailed OM's new friend and told her about his cheating ways. I hope she dumps him like like a hot potato! I have tried to forgive OM in my own life, but I haven't been able to. I think I will always hate him. I know this is not good for my own sake, but it is how I feel...