Done Orchid....wish I knew the answer to that though, lol....well I wish I had known it way back when.
I am doing well, dating here and there and involved in my kids's lives and my church. X and I are maintaining an amicable relationship right now, which is a good thing for the kids. We are not buddies, but we can communicate about the kids pleasantly and that is a plus. I still will have nothing to do with OW/new wife, and I don't see why I have to right now either. But I know I will have to as the kids get older.
I still use some of that special speech you suggested (can't recall what you call it right now but it involves repeating what silly comment he comes out with right back at him) and it has been effective. But I don't need to use it much these days.
My whole situation has wound down to a situation where it doesn't hurt me anymore, unless the kids are upset over some visitation event, and I can even have a giggle at some of the things that happened back then. Some of the dumb things he said, etc etc. Never thought I would be able to say that.
But now he just cuts a kind of a sad and tired figure to me, he is balding rapidly, looks tired each and every time I see him, has put on weight, (all the while I am looking goooooooood, lol) and has inferred a couple of times that all is not a bed of roses....but I keep out of that. His business, not mine, I tell him. And I don't feel sorry for him....he made that bed, he can lie in it.
He still asks me what plans I have for the weekend and I keep it vague, cos that is MY business, lol <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> .
So on the whole, the seas a re reasonably calm, and I am liking my life. How about you?
Love and light,
Jacky
