OK. I haven't said a whole lot about OW. But lately it has bothered me that she has taken such an active role in destroying my marriage. She is 3 years younger than H, has never been married, had kids, lived with someone, nor had a long-term relationship. Well, now she has H living with her, plus has our 3 children (under age 6) at her apt every weekend. She has ideas on discipline (although H makes sure she does not participate in handling it), suggestions about recreational activities for the kids, and sees fit to buy whatever she wants (clothes, toys) for them with or without H or my approval. Basically I think she has a lot of b***s to be ingratiating herself so much into my family. What is she thinking? What "issues" are a part of her past that she is behaving this way? And what will it take for her to realize how much she is hurting him and our children? Very confused today!<P>------------------<BR>Rachel :)<P>

Rachel,<P>I don't believe this woman gives one thought about "your family". She's making her own little nest with what belongs to you!<P>I really don't have any good advice for you, but your thread just burned me up! Who does this b**** think she is anyway??<P>If I was the other woman I don't think I'd have the guts to be so forward!<P>My finlaw left my minlaw, and his girlfriend hasn't tried to push into our lives too much! Lucky for her (he he)!<P>Anyway, I know this isn't too productive for you. I guess I'm just venting along with you!<P>Take care,<BR>Dragonfly

Dragonfly, That is ok. I am still in shock that she could have such audacity. The weird thing is that her mom and dad are born-again Christians and are horrified and pray daily for her return to the "light side" LOL. Yikes!@ What a strange woman!

cam:<P>Is there any way you can keep him from taking your kids to their place, especially since they're not married? Have you thought about getting legal advice regarding this situation? <P>Just a thought!<P>Singer

Rachel,<BR> Sounds to me like Dragonfly hit the nail on the head, tow may belive that by "sucking up" to the kids, their daddy may just stay with her, she also may be doing it to say, oh look at me, I am sooooo wonderful that I even love your children by your wife. Aren't i just the most wonderful sweet thing you have ever seen, BARF. The wildebeast tried this with my son when he was little, even told him that his dad and I weren't married, and that he should call her mom, I hit the roof over that one.<P>------------------<BR>Just call me - Deb<BR>------------------------<BR>The only day I can do anything about is today, yesterday is gone, tomorrow is not yet mine.<P>

My H tried to tell our oldest daughter that the OW was not an evil person, that she was very nice to the little kids. They (probably she) have bought my kids a swingset, toys, computer games. The second time she saw them the OW told my six year old that she loved her. Yeah, right.<BR>