Hello everyone. I've been lurking. Hopefully I will have time to post more often. This site has been very helpful to me. I was just wondering if there are any support boards out there specifically for spouses of those addicted to porn? I've searched but haven't really seen anything.

Just a bit of background. My dh has been looking at internet porn off and on for several years now. I thought it had stopped for good this last time. But as before he started looking at it again. More and more I find evidence. Now I don't even need to look in the history. I can tell by his mood towards me. Ugh!!!

I just need to find a way to be supportive of him. So basically I'm looking for the "right" words to bring this issue up. Any advise would be greatly appreciated!

Thanks!
Stacey <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Welcome to the forum Stacey. Dr. Harley's concepts do NOT work well when addictions are in place. For instance...it's impossible for an addict to follow the Policy of Joint Agreement, which is one of the cornerstones of the this program. Patrick Carnes is considered the authority on sexual addiction. Do a google search and you can pull up his books and site and you may find more help there.

Hi Stacey
There is a site called marriage and the internet which is a support group for those with a spouse who has a problem with internet porn.

Ir is a MSN group. You need to register and give a brief account to be accepted into group. Don't be put off by this. This is to screen out those who are not genuine.

My H also had a porn problem which I discovered the extent of after learning of his affair and continued to be an issue for us sometime after that. In fact it did more damge to our relationship than the initial affair did. I was ready to throw in the towel on this marriage. The support I got from this group ended up with me finally confronting it and we got into counseling with a sexual counselor and I am pleased to say that it is now a year since I have seen any sign of it. Unfortunately I still have some scepticism as to whether it continues, but I am growing in trust as it has been a year. And my H is doing all the right things for me and our relationship.

This site (marraige builders) is the best site I feel for building a relationship, but I did find that Marriage and the Internet specifically helpful with the porn issues.

Good luck
C&S

Thanks for the suggestions. I started lurking on MB because I thought dh was having an affair. Less than a year ago I had never heard of an EA. He is probably involved in one. I'm sure he hasn't a clue there is such a thing as a EA. So to him it's alright. Since reading this board, I've learned many things and it has been a great help.

I need to how other wives dealt with this issue. It's an "iffy" area and should be brought up with care. So I'm working on how to talk to him without sounding judgemental. All I want to do is help him and help our marriage. I appreciate the posts.

Thanks
Stacey