WHERE'S ZIZZY????!!!!

DO WE HAVE TO START A POOL AND POST BAIL???!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Remember that there is a difference in seeking revenge and in speaking ones peace and defining boundaries...even if the person you are defining boundaries too speaks alienspeak...one might need to tell them in certain terms <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> the boundaries that one has set for themselves...

ark

Looks like we may have to start a pool!

Gosh, I would really like to have the last OW sit down and read all of the emails sent to previous OW(s) so she could see that she is not so special (like she told me). H said the same thing to all the OW(s) over and over and over. IC said he needed to change his CD! LOL I guess H figured if his lines worked on one...

Maybe OW would finally realize that the A was all about making H feel good and getting his ego stroked.

Then I would have OW sit down and read all of the love notes, love emails, cards, etc. that H has sent to me. I can't even tell you how many notes/cards I have (shoeboxes). It would take OW (several painful) hours to get through all of them.

Think OW might see the difference? Nah, probably not!

sss

Don't do it, zizzy.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by zizzycool:
<strong>Has any BS here tried harrassing OW and did it work or did it make matter worst?</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Well, in my case OM's W - we were the best of friends before the affair - harrassed the hell out of my WS and her H and still does to this day. They currently have a restraining order on her.

The result? They use her behavior as justification for their decisions.

'Nuff said.

I think revenge is so much nicer when it comes much later on down the raod .
SHE may end up homeless and out of work all in the same week .

D-d was a little over 3 years ago and we are doing better than ever. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

My husband stopped all contact with OW and we were living "our" life. Just a few days before Xmas, OW actually tried to contact my husband again on his cell. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> Hey but it is now my cell and she had to hear "me" so she hung up immediately.

We then found out (from OWH) that they were getting divorced and OW has lost almost everything!!!

I never considered "revenge" and I never thought of doing anything "harmfull" towards OW (well only sometimes <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> ).
I didn't have to do anything to make OW life miserable, she did it herself...........

OWH actually came over to our place and my husband agreed to give him written evidence about the affair he had with OW. This means when they divorce she will have to work and earn her own $$$$$. She'll get divorced "guilty".

It was my husbands choice to do this and I am prowd of him for his honesty.

I agree completely with what 3isacrowd wrote it surely is nicer when it comes "much later down the road" and the best thing is I didn't even have to lower myself.
OW simply showed her "true face" and it was more than obvious that she is "needy and looking for $".

So in our case: OW lost her home, $$$, her husband, her car, her cell phone in just 3 weeks.

Oh and she also "lost" the illusion that my husband was "waiting " for her because he surely made it clear to her that his life is with "me". <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

take care
bb

ZZ,

Be a BS (as in: Be Smart). You don't have to harrass the OW. It is illegal and have repercussions on you and your family.

On the other hand..... you can put doubts in the OWs mind. As anyone from MB who has met me can attest to, I am NOT a big bully. I am more on the short side with my feet firmly planted on the ground and fully able to stand my ground.

With that in mind, size doesn't matter. Stature does. Lever the fact that the OW wants to control U. Why? Well they already control the Ws and eventually that game gets old, so esp the OWs, they like a challenge and who is more challenging than a BS?

Awwh....that's where you can 'be smart'. With this knowledge you can be prepared. I learned to use the WS as a way to communicate doubt to the OW. Know her weakness. Like the OW can't keep her mouth shut. That's a good one because with that shortcoming, you can give her something to talk about. Make yourself so irrestistable that the OW will be insanely jealous. It won't take much because most OWs are insane. LOL!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Just have to be creative. Here's an example:

BS: ....by the way, does OW do drugs?

WS: Of course not, what makes you ask?

BS: Well you have been acting funny, kinda dopey like and since she is in the international tea selling business, I did some checking and it seems smuggling drugs in tea imports is a growing trend. So.... I just wondered if she maybe slipping you something. (pleasant smile) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

WS: I am sure she isn't...... right?

BS: (batting eyelashes), guess so. Can't say for sure though. You see, I don't know her as well as you do or...do I? Hm..... (looking coy). <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

WS: (scratching his head).

BS: Do you need a shower? Maybe it's time for you to leave. I need to go take a nice soak in the tub. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />


Most of the above actually happened. Except for the last line. I just added it in. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Recalling these events can be humorus at times. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

L.

Orchid,
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

bb

Last week when I was at Hs business, where OW worked for 5 yrs., I found a picture of her. I took it over to the shredder and said "Bye, Bye!" Yesterday I was looking at a group picture on the bulletin board. It has been there forever, and has really been annoying me lately because she is in it. So while H was in his office I cut her out of the picture and had that shredder rumbling. I put the picture back on the bulletin board. I wonder if H will notice! I have to tell you I was smiling the whole way home. It's the little things that give me pleasure. I guess it beats shredding her!

There is a framed collage of pictures in which hers is among them. A little more difficult to get at her lovely little face. THE SHREDDER will be hitting again soon!

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
you gals are really getting me laughing!!!!!

bb

CV I liked that one , and NO the shredder is to small for her ,,,, BUT the seen in SCARFACE with the CHAIN SAW will do it !!!!!

ok I know not nice , who cares LOL

KEEP on killing the pictures !

AND where is ZIZZY !

I don't know if I can help out with BAIL for anyone on MB ,, OW still hasn't paid back the 20,000 AND not even a thank you card BITC*

Well this seems to be a good thread but the OW in my situation is a 21 year old college student who lives at home. As far as I know she herself is not living a lie to anyone. I know my H doesn't wear his wedding ring so how would her family know? I asked my H if her mom knew and he just said she might but that he's only met her in passing.

I'm not really saying that age has a lot to do with it. I met my H the day after my 17th birthday, I'm only stating it because I guess in my mind I don't see that she has a lot to lose but everything to gain with my H.

Any suggestion what to do in my situation? I live in another state (not because of this). I know her name, age, phone number, email address, and what city she lives in. I only talked to her briefly to tell her I knew and that it was over between them. I would like to expose the A to her family but not sure how or when or if I should.

kati posted
She told me to stay in Plan A for now and to tell him firmly that it bothers me that he is still in contact with OW. She then told me to drop all talk of A and OW and to do things for myself that I've always wanted to do for myself. It is going to be difficult, but I'm gonna have to be strong for myself (AND him). My Mom said that I have basically given myself up for him and his needs and it is now time to get the old Kati back - the woman that he fell in love with a long time ago. She told me to not mention anything about the A and OW or ask about their plans or the two of them, but rather tell him about exciting things that I'm doing and just show love to him and try to satisfy his needs. This is what brought my Dad back to my Mom. He realized what a terrific woman my Mom was in the end and OW could have never compared to her.

This worked for me. I didn't know it but FWH was watching me and asking the kids questions( and we lived 1200 miles apart) I started going out with friends, I joined a sailing race crew, and the gym. I didn't know if he would ever be back so I needed to do this for me.

This has been the best "revenge" of all - getting my husband back and having her make calls to his old cell phone (which he doesn't have anymore - I get the messages)

She says things like
I miss you come pick me up - we need to talk

Ok I get it, I heard what you said about me, it's over between us

I am going on my first date, I am over you

Wah, I miss you

Maybe you haven't called me back because wife(me) is around?

You owe me money. If I don't hear from you I'm going to send all my bills to wife (me)

I miss you - call me

Ok it's over you won't f'g call me back

Call me - you owe me money. If I don't hear from you I will send wife (me) the video.

Blah Blah Blah

FWH wants nothing to do with her and she is going nuts. She lost her house, her furnishings, her job, her cell phone, her sanity (oh wait, she never had that)

I never had to do anything, she did it all to herself. Early on she made "anonymous" phone calls to me so I could tell that she didn't like the fact that I stayed married. She kept trying to get FWH to get a Dv. I knew it would end, Friends would say that they hated each other (but yet still stayed together)

Revenge is from the Lord.

D.

<small>[ March 12, 2004, 11:13 PM: Message edited by: WillGetThruThis ]</small>

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> U guys are great and funny. Thank you for all the advice and opinion.

I am still here...and noooo...did not need any bail <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I can harrassed her if i want to. I am not living in US. I am living in a country where harrassment law is almost none existant.

I did confront OW in plan A before i started plan B. I was very calm and i did not pull her hair. That is what i regret the most. I WISH i did pull her hair and make a scene like never before seen.

I won't stop my MIL or my mom from making a scene with OW if they want to. I told them i won't be in the picture because of plan B. I am afraid to see another disappointment. I am afraid if i see it then i won't be able to stop myself from filing for divorce.

Hi Zizzy,

As others pointed out to me, you are very limited in the amount of pain you can cause the OP. She really isn't worth the time.


Anyone know what a industrial sized wood chipper could be used for. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> (really need the evil smile Graemlin)

I think I will go out and rent Scarface tonight. Maybe get a few ideas. And I definitely like that wood chipper idea. In a short time I will be out of OWs pictures to shred, and then what am I going to do? Shred Hubby? I could begin shredding his pictured. HMMMMM, that's a thought! Yes, the gremlins are working overtime with me. And I actually thought after my little talk with OW I left her behind. I guess that was wishful thinking.