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Re: Just a thought I wanted to share . . .
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Thank you, JG. My WH has told us we are all better off without him. He seems to get irritated when I invite him to dinner, or anything else.

He will go to kid functions: award ceremonies, concerts, etc.

I have stopped asking him. I am tired of the defensive, angry, caged-animal looks he gives me.

The OW has dumped him. Perhaps he is angry at me for that. I don't know.

I see what you are saying, but I think my WH is different than most. HE has totally detached from US.

So I am unplugging from him. I think it is what he needs.

Tough love.

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I don't think it makes a d*** bit of difference. When my H first left, he came to visit the kids at our home two evenings a week, while I went out for the evening. At one point, I was making dinner for him and we would eat before I left. The kids invited him to their birthday celebrations. He was always welcome at home, and he knew it. The OW, however, objected. For months, maybe almost a year, he would come in while waiting for the kids to get ready to go with him - once, however, he brought the OW and she waited in the car. As soon as she realized that he was coming in the house, she stopped "allowing" him to do that, and he has rarely come in the house since then. I have actually seen him stand in the doorway in the middle of a snowstorm waiting for the kids.
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Jazzey- Are you making an excuse for him, a mid-life crisis at 28, or younger, c'mon. Will he be dead at 50? Stop it.
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Jazzey -
I think that is a great idea. It may or may not work, but what have you got to lose?

You sound like things are going well. I'm so happy for you.
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Jazzy, you sound sooo much better than before. It's a long road, but it isn't uphill all the way. I'm glad you're finding some forgiveness and seeking understanding!

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