I'm new to this website so please excuse my ignorance but does anyone know where I might find help (workgroup type programs) in the Kansas City area that address infidelity issues? I have performed countless searches and have found nothing.

Also, I just wanted to say that I already feel a big sigh of relief that there is a very active forum addressing the very issues that I am going through. However, it would be nice to be involved in local groups.

Welcome to MB,

Can you please share your story? Your user name is a bit uhm..... scary? However, the info here is for all..... Please read the concepts section above and the books surviving an affair and His needs/Her Needs. Both books are by Dr W. Harley. Then let us know how you are doing. Contacting actual posters here is not done all the time. We have to respect each posters identity request.

Get to know us via this forum and read the material. It will help you on the way to personal recovery. Other types of recovery can then be tackled with more stability and clarity.

take care,
L.

Here is a very short version =)

Well I'm 34 and from the ages of 18/28 I did alot of bad stuff on the internet I just never really ditched the nick after I stopped. I had coined the "e" before eCommerce and eBay =P.

Anyway we all have some kind of past - we are all sinners at least that is what Romans is teaching me.

emafia -
You are quite nice looking, so please don't put yourself down. Unless you posted the picture of a friend??

Start reading about emotional needs here. Usually woman wander because their emotional needs are not being met. So you start figuring out what they are and meeting them.

Also read on the home page under "quick clicks" about overcoming resentment, restoring the marriage, and reconciliation. They will help you.

For some reason men have a difficult time overcoming infidelity. Just remember it was probably not about sex, or because of you, but because she was feeling emotionally disconnected.

Keep posting here, and we will help you through this. Remember many go on to have a much better marriage. You can too. Also see if your wife will agree to post here.

believer -

That's my family and I a couple weeks after her returning. I have always been critical of my looks but even so the guy she shacked up with was actually very funny. Other than my Lord and Savior that was the ONE thing I held on to during the whole situation which gave me SOME comfort about my self =P

"I know I'm not a looker but damn this guy is fugly". I tried to use this to convice myself that she was the one losing.

Thanks for the advice regarding the reading links. She would never post or much less type anything publically. For the most part, she is not 1) into expressing herself 2) interested in finding outside help for her past 3)into anything related to the Internet unless it's called eBay And she can buy it =)

I have just been praying and encouranging her to attend our church which was introduced to us through her father and stepmother. The first 7 months I became very active in the Church but this last month I have backslided a bit. I can placate much of blame to school and my job but I know there is no excuse.

I included the OM and his children in our nightly prayers for the first month but eventually stopped. I even went as far as to write this guy a letter exressing to him my understanding of his sorrow FROM MY WIFE LEAVING HIM and that I really feel for his children. Many people told me this guy didn't deserve jack but I did kind of feel sorry for him.

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Of course your self-esteem has taken a dive, but you sound like a good man.

If you are a believer, and obey the Lord, have a relationship with Him, and ask for his help, He will bring good out of this.

Please read about the EN's and start filling them as fast as you can for your wife.