I've been working 12 hour shifts for the last week. Been very tired and somewhat cranky. My oldest D went out last night. I asked her before she left if she were going to stay with her mom or come home. She said she was coming home. She has a very liberal curfew of 2am. I got up at 2:30 to get ready to leave for work at 4:00. Well, D wasn't home so I drove by her mom's house to make sure she was there. Nope. Not there, neither was mom. I was a little peeved. Called my D's cell and she said she was pulling in the drive way. I said she knew her curfew was 2:00 and that we'd talk later. So, since I didn't see her mom's car decided to check to see if she was at OM's house. And yes, there she was. I got about 1/2 way to work and it was just eating me up, so I called her cell. I said that our D had not come home and that I drove by her house to see if D was there. I told her that I called D's cell and she was fine. I then said, since I didn't see her car, I assumed she was with OM. I said, I didn't want to go on like this anymore. I said I'd probably see a lawyer soon. She said not to, that she had already seen one. I told her to send me the paperwork and we'd go from there. I then asked if that is what she really wanted and she said yes. I told her that I had written her a letter to apologize for what had happened earlier about an email that I sent. I said it probably didn't matter at this point anyway. I told her I really didn't want a divorce, but I wasn't going to go on like this any longer. My cell died about that time. I hate cell phones! So, I'm sitting here waiting for the paperwork to show up... Not sure of what the future holds....

lwh,

You should document the incident and get witness to help you out. She is not fit parent at this point, go after the full custody. If she gets a lawyer you should get one. Interview around and get lawyer that specialize to defend male.

-rh-

That sucks, dude. Sorry to hear.

dewt

Well, WW came over to pick D up last night. She didn't drop off any paperwork. I talked to oldest D and she said her mom had told her she was planning on DV. I don't know. Still waiting...

Lost..sorry to hear your story. If you know that you are going to DV...do not wait on her to file..file on her. I know in my state the plantiff has a little better ground on the custody end. Being a male...you will need any advantage that you can get to get custody. You may want to talk to an attorney where you are and see.

Best of Luck,
Karl

Well, WW dropped off DV paperwork today. I should just sign it and be done with it. There will have to be some changes but she is being very fair about it. I called her and asked if this is definately what she wants and she says yes. The paperwork is for a disillusionment instead of divorce, but when filed it is the same thing. It will work ok if we can both agree on everything. I guess I've got some reading to do this weekend. I really didn't want it to come to this but I don't know what else to do at this point. Are there any legal folks out there? Can I just sit on this or do I need to act in a specified time? I don't know if I'm ready for DV or not... I'm just tired of all of this and I think she feels the same way and just wants to finish it without having to work through anything. I guess it's her choice... Any advice would be nice.....

I don't know what state you're in, and I'm definitely not an attorney, but I work with someone who didn't want a D and drug out the one with her WH to the point the court finally threw it out as too old and he had to file again.

She drug out the second one, too. Finally after almost 3 years, the second one was final, and around that same time is OW dumped him because she realized he wasn't going to marry her, and he and the person I work with were remarried and are now very happy.

Doesn't happen every time, but can personally attest that it did in at least their case.

LL