I told my wifes sister everything about the affair, in fact my WW lied to her and told her that she was living at a girlfriends house. Now my question is should the sister say anything about the affair to my WW. My WW has a bad temper and my sister inlaw is afraid that if she says anything she will lose her sister for another 3 years. The reason she thinks this is that my WW didn't approve of my sister inlaws H so my WW didn't talk to her for 3 years. Now if my WW ask's me if I told anyone I'm going to tell her the truth and say yes I have and let her know who I've told. With my wife's temper this might not be good for me but I lied about smoking to her and that is a LB so I told my WW that all that is going to come out of my mouth from now on is truth. Going to try and quit smoking this week it's a LB also so wish me luck.

<small>[ March 15, 2004, 07:08 AM: Message edited by: Johns98ck ]</small>

Y'all shouldn't be accommodating her bad temper by walking around on egg shells. If she gets mad that is her problem, not yours. Why would she cut the sister off? Because your WIFE committed adultery and the sister knows it? C'mon John, don't encourage that kind of immaturity. Don't let her immature bad temper dictate your life.

Your right MelodyLane there is no sense in walking around on eggshells. I'm going to call my sister inlaw and tell her that if my WW asked if I told her anything to tell her the truth that I did. That way WW can feel guilty and she is then only mad at me which is fine. Thank you for your insight.

John, she will be mad that you blew on the whistle on her, but that IS OK!! If she weren't doing something wrong, there would be nothing to expose. Its not your job to help her hide her dirty little secret!

<small>[ March 15, 2004, 09:15 AM: Message edited by: MelodyLane ]</small>

I'm going to call my sister in-law and tell her that if my WW asked if I told her anything to tell her the truth that I did.
So you previously told her to lie?
And besides, your sister-in -law SHOULD confront her with it, not wait until your ww asks if you told her anything.

That way WW can feel guilty and she is then only mad at me which is fine.
You forget. She is ws. She will be mad at ANYBODY who has ANY objections to the affair.

I didn't tell sister inlaw to lie, I told her it was her decision as to what she wanted to do, but I'm going to call my sister inlaw today and say just tell the truth.

So what's the scoop? has your SIL spoke to your WW? anxious to know. As far as I know my MIL is the only who knows (in his family) about my WH's A. Contemplating what I should do with his family.

My SIL hasn't said anything to my WW. I told my MIL the truth on Wed. she is going to confront my WW on Monday. Right now my WW is on vacation with the OM in Portorico. He likes to gamble. Not a good person at all I wish my WW could see this. I don't understand how you could be with someone who is getting a DV and might cause another one. I keep hope in thinking that if this is really what she wanted she would have already filled out DV papers and told her family if she was so proud of the OM. My WW has been living with OM since 2/11/04 and I'm trying to stay in Plan A. I haven't heard from my WW for about a week. When I talked to MIL she told me that she asked WW questions like am I beating her, cheating on her, or treating her bad. My WW told her no to all these questions. My MIL said nothing was adding up but since I told her the truth she says it adds up now. Keeping hope and faith here not sure if I have the patience though, I don't think I could do a year of this. I'm hoping that the people who have posted are correct in saying that exposing the affair will help it end quicker.