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Since my wife is living with OM should I do a modified plan A and only talk to her when she initiates contact and be patient that the affair will fizzle out or should I just send a plan B letter?
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That depends on a couple of things.
1. Have you done a solid Plan A? Plan B should ONLY follow a good, solid Plan A. You want to leave your W with lots of fond memories of you.
2. If you've done a good solid Plan A then Plan B is appropriate in two situations:
a) Your love bank is nearing empty and you must remove yourself from the situation in order to preserve what love you still have for your W.
b) Your W continues to be a "cake eater" and can't decide between you and OM.
It sounds like b) above might apply, but only if you've done a great Plan A.
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My wife left to live with OM on Feb. 11/04 got WW cell bill called number she has been calling alot found it to be a coworker. Followed OM home to his apartment WW car wasn't there, went to return loaner car and decided to go back to make sure that is where OM was living came around corner to find wifes car there knocked on apartment door my WW comes out asking if I'm stalking her my bad responce before finding websight was "ARE YOU CHEATING ON ME" she said no of course I want to belive her but I know better. Got confession on wed. about the affair. We had a good talk that night. But really haven't started a solid Plan A. She's still living with him and it's killing me going to OM house hoping his wife still lives there since they are going through a Divorce.
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