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Waited at OM house to see if his W showed up so I could tell her about the affair. People came home talked to them and found out they had just closed on the house today. This means that his D is in full swing and my wife is going to get sucked in and I feel as if I have no hope.
<small>[ March 17, 2004, 07:03 AM: Message edited by: Johns98ck ]</small>
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Find the OW wife and meet her. I think it might help you a bit to know some answers.
As for modified Plan A...well...i think u should try it...give yourself one month in Plan A if you can handle plan A. Don't chase your WW...let her call you or come over to see you and if she does then do a GREAT plan A. Do you know what Plan A is about? Have you read everything about Plan A?
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In the process of reading SAA, I'm past the plan A and Plan B part. Implimented plan A without even knowing it when WW came over to talk this past Wed. after admitting to affair. I was calm with her and I didn't yell asked her to let me know what emotional needs I wasn't meeting so on and so on. I was giving for two reasons to see if the giver or taker came out of my WW. I think the giver came out cause she said she was sorry. So should I wait a month from the last time we talked?
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John, plan A is a PROCESS, not a one time altercation. Plan A should be done as long as conceivably possible. Plan A is when you forgo all lovebusters, treat them civilly and try to meet their needs. How long have you been doing this?
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I just started this past Wed., but I've had no contact with my WW so I will stick to Plan A whenever she makes contact with me. Will try to find out what emotional needs I wasn't meeting next time I talk to her. If there is no contact in a month I will move to Plan B. Working on a love buster here shortly, ordered the Smoke Away program to quit smoking to show I'm making an effort.
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Good job. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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I want to believe that the added stress in his life will eventually make the affair fizzle. I'm also hoping he will put pressure on my WW to start her D papers, she does not respond well to this. I'm hoping my sister inlaw is right and my WW will come out of the fog to realize that OM is no good since he's getting D and causing another one.
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I'm just looking for opinions here any help or input would be greatly appreiciated. Thank you all.
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