My husband has told me that he confuses love and passion and doesn't know how to seperate the two. My story is Here

He's so confused. I wish I could help him. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

FlorDeLux

I’m so sorry for you pain. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> It sounds if your H is very confused and in a fog. Maybe the following articles/threads will help?

Real/true love, ego boundaries, romantic love and feelings of love (also dependency)
The difference between the Fog and Love
Fog = Love ???

<small>[ March 17, 2004, 01:53 AM: Message edited by: Suzet ]</small>

Hola FlorDeLuz

I can relate to well to what your H is telling you now. My H used to tell me he didn't felt the butterflies in his belly for me. That he stoped feeling them 2 years ago.

I was like geee I did a hell of a job, cause I stopped feeling those one year after we were married. That feelings change for others, security, peace, serenity.

I'm not telling you that passion is not important in a M, but when you confuse that with love, you are in trouble IMHO, but you know what? that is also a part of the A, the thrill. When you understand that that is an important part of the feelings involved in and A from the WS, I guess you take it more easily.

I don't know how the culture shock may be affecting your H, but I would guess big time, no money, not knowing well the language, and depending on you might hit him pretty hard in his manhood. I assume he is latin, but also he has to understand he is starting a new life in a new country. Things are not going to be easy for any of you.

I sugest that you get into plan A if you can do it. Distance is not going to help if you LB, you are just giving him more resons to stay away.

Take care