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Hi! I rarely post but I'm feeling very low today I just can't understand how H can just disconnect with our son like nothing, a 3 yr old that loves his dad.
H's OW ( she's 18 yr old/ H 34) has a 1 1/2 yr old son H spends so much more time with them then our own son,it's killin me and her son lives with her mom not them. H sees our son about 6 hrs a week if that last wk was less. he's been gone since the end of NOV and for the whole month of JAN he had no contact what so ever with our son, I should hate this man knowing what I went through to have his child I had a very high risk pregnancy and now he doesn't care about anything.

H has left me in ZERO I have to move out of my apt in April so I will be moving in with my sister til june until her lease is over and I lose my job (terminating position)I have thought it over and over again I will be sending our son to my parents out of country for a few months so I can get another job and save more money to start a new life with my son in Florida, but what kills me is that H does not care one bit he knows his son is leaving he even signed papers that he was fine with this.All in all this may be the last time he probably sees his son in a long time if not yrs. H never has money for anything he spends it all, so he will not be able to travel to see son I keep thinking it's probably better anyway our son is always a witness to our arguments H has no respect for me at all. H said OW treats him better then I did. I told him yea she puts up with your sh##!! because she has no choice, you support her in everything she has noone to turn to wait till she gets tired gives you the boot then you realize you've lost it all. it will be way to late.

I can care less about his relationship I know that will die in the long run she's too young and immature, it's that he dropped my son to raise 2 other kids (OW AND HER SON)what a low life. here it is Tuesday and I will be taking our son on Sunday to my parents in another country (not by choice) and he has not contacted him at all.
yet I can't hate this man I have more then enough reasons too...

I also told him how easy it was for him to just give up on his son that would make it easier for him and OW they would not have to worry about our son intruding in their schedule. she must be delighted, she will have H all to herself and her son. I told him if I was OW it would be a dream come true to have W and child out of the picture how better can that get...


Off the subject a little I was invited to his family's party this past Sat he was their alone he did not dare to bring his OW, he was pretty mad at the fact that everyone was talking and treating me like always and everyone mentioning how good I looked, his nephew comentated that to him and he just gave him a dirty look. I laughed at that one...

sorry but I JUST HAD TO VENT...

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jazzeygirl, Thank you for your reply it does make alot of sense. as far as H helping me financially yes he does, but is not enough since we have so many other mutual bills that also have to be paid. H will also be losing his job in June,so in May I will have to do everything through court to make sure my son gets his support.I live in NJ so I'm pretty familiar with how the law works. can I ask how long your H was with OW before the A was over?


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