Without reading your other thread (because quite frankly, I've been here long enough to know that most of the stories are pretty much the same), I can still give you my opinion on what Dr.Phil might say to your H.
He'd give him he!! for putting you and your sons through the pain and anguish of an A. He'd ask your H what was so bad that he had to betray you and the kids like that. And then he'd ask what he's doing to mend that.
Let's just say your H's stance at the time is, "I'm not planning on fixing anything".
Then Dr.Phil would lay it on him again, telling him that he has NO RIGHT to leave your M until he can honestly say he's done all he can to fix it. If your H wants to D, then according to Dr.Phil, "The right to divorce must be EARNED".
At some point, I would assume that the good Dr would then look to you to find out what you are doing to fix the M. This is where you could openly list the faults that you have realised about yourself, and tell what you have done to correct them (don't forget the "little" things, b/c they DO mean a LOT <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> ).
Anyways... that's my take on what Dr.Phil might say. I know, it's probably more generalized than you may have been hoping for... but his one hour show just doesn't allow for deep therapy into issues (unless you're a Dr.Phil "family").
edited to add: Oh.. as far as whether or not Dr.Phil would tell you if the M could be saved... he'd remind BOTH of you that it takes BOTH of you to make the M work; the one that BOTH of you made that commitment to. He would remind you (just as Harley does), that recovery cannot be one-sided. That your H must earn that trust back, and that YOU have the power to truly decide if you want the treatment by your H that you've gotten.
Karen
<small>[ March 17, 2004, 09:26 PM: Message edited by: Topie25 ]</small>
