Hello MBers

I've not posted for months as things have been going well, but something has arisen that is troubling me.

I can date my H starting to try back to last March(03)-Mother's day-he was fab.And prettty much has been ever since.

He went on a short conference in April last year, phoned me on the way home. I had felt angry during his absence-he didn't call me much.
I called him back soon after on his journey home....engaged...when he arrived I confronted him and he said it was a female colleague who had phoned him.....for ages I thought she was a potential new OW.

Last night we were at dinner and her name came up-I had always been puzzled so asked him about that phone call-he admitted it was OW.

So that means there was contact as late as April 7 03, yet that was after he had started really trying in our marriage.

He is still wonderful-can you see where I am going with this?
He has never given me an end date for contact-just says its over-says he can't remember which I obviously don't believe.
I feel I need a date, so I can have some gage for the recommencement of our marriage, closure if you like.
Is that unreasonable?
He has never liked to talk about the A-yet things have been great between us for months-except that he won't talk much.
Do I ask him for details of the end of the A? I know he remembers -if it has ended.

Any thoughts anyone?

Deluded, those are questions I would want answered. He might not know the exact date, but he knows how it ended. The OW shouldn't be privy to any knowledge that you are not.

Thanks for your reply MelodyLane. We have been away on holiday, back yesterday.

I am not happy-I'm worried that something is not right.

I asked WH if he could tell me when the A finished. He became angry, asked me why I had to bring that up when "we have been getting on so well", and said that he couldn't remember but he is sure OW could.
I didn't ask any more then left the room, went to bed,the next morning and since, we have been ok again.

However,my instincts are freaking out and I kept brooding about it the whole time we were on holday , watching his behaviour towards me, comparing it with the other couple we were with.

Last night he thanked me for organising a great holiday, then a while later pointed out "are you impressed that I haven't even checked my mobile since I've been back? There could have been important messages from work"

He has gone off happily to work today.

I have hunted and can't find another mobile-but he could be in touch via work-phone and email-or, he has a locked drawer in his desk, and keeps the key on his keyring.

I am devastated that this is in my mind again but can't dismiss it.He could be in contact again-and if he is I can't just ignore it. It is nearly 2 years since my first D Day.

What should I do MBuilders .Please help?

Deluded

well first off, he wouldnt have a locked drawer i couldnt get into. ask or take a axe to it---but i would definately be in it.

as for the rest----you have every right to hsve the answers to what you need to know. your right---something doesnt sound right.

or get a locksmith in to make you a key for it.
just a suggestion.