Husband says he's not 'in' love with me but loves me. He's found another woman. He's asked for a divorce. I told him I havn't been 'in' love with him for years but I do deeply love him (it evollved) I told him not to divorce but we could consider it a seperation. I told him I would wait for him and it didn't matter how long. He said I need to get on with my life but agreed not to divorce. He said when he's finished with her he will get in touch with me.
This has happened before shortly after we first met. He did however to continue having sex with me. He said this time he wants to be faithful and won't have sex with me and her at the same time. It's his 3rd marriage and my 2nd. This is all very receint and right now I'm comming to terms and dealing with my life hoping his new life with her won't be for long. I do love him. We got along splendedly when we said good-bye, having great sex twice in a short time. I'm not ready to give up. I really need feedback! Thanks!

How long have you been married? Any children? Is this his first affair?

MelodyLane thanks so much for responding and giving me feedback! I really need to talk to someone about this but have no one to talk to.
Been married for 6 years and together for 11 years. No children. He has an only child/son living close to him and works with him. I have 3 adult children. (Two married)
When I first met him he left me for another woman. I was in such shock I couldn't let go. We sometimes had sex when he was with her. He now says he's not going to do this as he wants to be faithful to her.
The first affair lasted about 3 months before he came back. He had called me, told me he loved me and to be good and then I didn't hear a thing from him. About 4 weeks later when I finally found him (at a job he was doing) he told me it was too late and that he had found someone else. (He had actually moved in with her) He discovered she had a nice shell but not what he wanted on the inside. He has since that first woman had many affairs (that I know of. He's a womanizer. He's so part of my life and if it hadn't happened before I might not have this opinion now.
I'm 54 and he's 57. I look excellent for my age and am desirable but I can't seem to let go. I feel like I can't be bothered loving someone else (or even dating for that matter) There's a part of me that believes he really is finished with me forever and there's another part that hopes I will have him forever.
It was actually after an affair approx 5 years after we were together that I gave him an ultimatum that he be with me for I leave forever. He cried (only time I ever saw him cry)and married me shortly there after. Junie

Junie, what do your children think of this situation? What do they want you to do?