I must say that at this time I'm way past my anger stage I'm burning up inside.how can these selfish cheating H or W be? I'm going to brief on my ongoing saga at this point.

I will be leaving out of the country for about a wk to take my son to stay with my parents for a couple of months,H is fully aware of this. I will be doing this very unwillingly but at this point I really have no choice I will be leaving my apt because I can no longer afford it,moving in with my sister until her lease is over in june. that is when I lose my job.So I will be having some hard months coming ahead.all of this no thanks to H who never thought of the consequences of what he was doing to his family. H had the nerve to say he never planned for all of this to happen,(hey you didn't stop it either).this was the last week he had to spend with our son for a while (not that he has been much of a father for months anyway he practicaly disowned his son for an 18yr old OW.)H never bothered calling his son much less come to see him, today Sat was his day off and last day to see his son (since he works tomorrow) so he had all day to be with his son if he chose to didn't happen. H came by for about (no lie 2 min) hugged him said he loved him and left, that was his good bye my son was crying hystericaly his father is his idol, now here comes my question how important can the OP be that you completly disown your children? how deep can that fog really be? it kills me to think that this man was a great father now he can care less. there is so much more I would like to say but my anger is keeping me from fully expressing myself. no person in the world can be more important then your children at least in my eyes. can the fog blind a person so much that they really really don't see the pain they put their family in, most importanly their children?
what can possibly run through their minds?
please any insight on this....

destiny..this is really hard to post...but I'm just going to be painfully honest...

I implore you not to leave your child....the recent chaos and immaturity and pure selfishness of your husband is unspeakable...

BUT
children just want their parents...
the good ones
the bad ones
the ugly ones...
and they want to feel loved and wanted and while home should have set rules and boundaries...it should also be a safe haven for them....

seperate from your husbands actions please please please see if there is somehow you and your son can stay together....

Your focus on your husbands actions....then being the root cause of sending your son away...though it may even be true....I am most concerned about his impact...

Is there anyway regardless of husband that your son can stay with you...
have you gone to court to protect yourself and him...
file for seperation/divorce no matter what it can always be reversed but focus should be on keeping son in an intact situation preferably with you....

I wish much you strength...
children should be protected from chaos that affects them on so many level..

ARK