I need some ideas of what to do with a few things WH left when he moved out. They are all in our second bedroom. I need to have them gone, in case I can get a roommate. I have been asking him for 3 months to move the stuff to his storage shed. He says he will and never does.

Last week I told him again that it had to go. There is a gun cabinet - may or may not have guns in it. I think he has probably taken guns because he has removed everything of value from our home. But it is locked, so I am not sure.

To add to the problem gun cabinet was made by his son. It is very nice. We do have a storage shed here at house, but it is locked. I asked WH for key several months ago, but he will not give it to me.

I do not want to involve his son because he is expecting a baby today, who may have problems. I don't want to add to his stress.

So does anyone have any ideas? Before I have packed up truck and taken things to WH's house and unloaded them. Should I make another trip?

He doesn't want to give you the key to your own shed? Break the lock and replace it with a new one (and then I would think about giving him a key). What's he got in there that you can't see? Does he think you'll break something? Sheesh.

Personally, after all you've been through, I'd put his stuff in the truck and take it to the dump. I might, out of the kindness of my heart, hold onto the gun cabinet and store it in the shed once I broke the lock off of it!

But, that's just me.

~ Snow

What about sending a certified letter to your WH telling him of a date to have the items removed from your home by? Tell him if he isn't there to retrieve them, at a time and date that is convenient for both of you, it will be your decision on how to dispose of the said items.

Also, copy your attorney and his attorney if you have them, or better yet, have the arrotney send the letter.

I am not up on yur entire situation, so I don't know if this tactic will work.

Good luck!

Believer,

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Heya, Believer. I posted to you on your other thread, but this one's got more info. Personally, I agree with Snowbelle. Break the lock on the shed, put his stuff in it, and relock it with your own lock.

Or put it all out by the side of the road and let happen to it what may.

Or take it all to the dump, except the gun cabinet. Take that to the police and explain that you don't know whether there are guns in it or not, and ask them to help you break the lock.

Or break the lock on the gun cabinet, turn any guns therein over to the police, and take the rest to the dump.

Or put it all in his yard, wherever it is that he lives now. Or tie it to the rearview mirror, like you did with the dog. I liked that one.

JustJ- I almost took it to his house. But I think the guns are still in it. Who knows - he may have taken them. But I think I will wait til tomorrow and get a lock cutter from work. The guns were very expensive, and I would like to save them.

Myself I think I would have a garage sell. Or you could give the unwanted stuff to Goodwill. He obviously doesn't want the stuff since he hasn't retrieved it. Sell or Give it all including the stuff in the shed that you don't want. If your WH complains, just let him know he had 3 months to get it. Of course this is Dark Silver talking. I agree any lock that you don't have a key to break it and replace it, and I wouldn't give him a key to the new lock.

If guns are in the gun cabinet, I would sell those instead of giving them away. Then buy yourself something you really want.

Yeah, I agree with giving the stuff away. I think it was Topie25 (if I'm wrong, my apologies, it was quite a while ago) who tried to do the "right" thing with her wedding ring, only to have it tossed back in her face.

Be very careful with your WS's stuff. It contains explosive negative energy, and I'm not talking just about the gunpowder in any bullets that are with the guns. The emotional energy in these things is likely to rear its head and do nasty things to you. Best to get rid of it in a way that gives it no opportunity to do that.

And letting your WH interact with the stuff is a really bad idea, too. Particularly the guns. We all know our WSs are in the fog; who'd give a person in a fog a gun? They're liable to shoot their own foot off in the process.

Girl!!! Break the darn LOCKS!!!!!! ALL OF THEM~

Change the locks in the front door.. MAKE THE DECISION TO LOSE THE [censored]! You can find someone else.. and realize you are happy without him. All this time.. you have been without him.. did you die? Did it make you less happy? Anyways when you do see him it seems to get WORSE! Just get a restraining order.. LOCK HIM OUT! I don't want to see you hurt anymore babygirl, enough is enough. About his stuff.. Take all his clothes.. shoes.. IS IT COLD? SET A BONDFIRE! .. ok I'm kidding.. just dump him right in front of his door. Just like my ex sis-in-law did to my H's brother.. whom did not deserve it.

Kisses*

Believer, thinking of you. Hope you feel good today.

Well I got a lock cutter at work, and brought it home and cut all the locks. Now I have access to the gun cabinets, and shed.

By the way, there is a gang of guns and rifles in the gun cabinet. I was really surprised, because WH has pretty much removed everything of value.

In the shed, the 2 Harleys are gone, which I pretty much knew. The Triumph and other bike are still there.

I feel good to be able to get into the shed. That is where my bike has been locked up for the last 8 months, and I couldn't use it.

Believer, good for you. It is nice to see you on again.

Hi, Believer -

Good for you. I would've never had the guts to cut the lock off. Your bike was in there also? I must've missed that part of the story. If I had a motorcycle in there that I couldn't get to and I was rightfully due, I would've lopped the lock off, too.

Enjoy your victory today!

(PS - Please keep the weapons under lock and key, also.)