I haven't been here much since my remarriage to my former husband.

I can't begin to thank everyone here enough for their insight, caring, and advice given to me from September 2002 until my remarriage in January of this year.

It is hard to believe that merely weeks before my husband and I were reconciled that things looked quite hopeless.

I had time this evening to look back at some old posts and it was quite interesting.

It truly seemed my husband would NEVER forgive me for my A. Amazingly, it took years, but he did. I am so grateful that I was patient and waited it out- thanks to all of your help. I'm even more thankful that my husband forgave me.

It's now been 2 1/2 months since we remarried. Our marriage is stronger than ever. The time apart truly allowed my husband to grow much, and gain new confidence in himself. AS far as what it did for me? Primarily it taught me to appreciate my husband, and to never take him or his love for granted. It also taught me patience. It also taught me to value love in every way, and to not pick away at love by being critical and petty.

I'm still learning more about my husband, and he is about me, too. I am grateful daily that I didn't lose him. He is quite a catch!

Thanks again for all your help and prayers. What a blessing our new marriage is! MB is fantastic, and Dr. Harley's books should be read by everyone.

God bless,
HP

PS Just J- I'm sorry I didn't email you as you requested. I don't email people from here at all. If you have a question, feel free to ask it on the board. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

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I'm so happy for you and your husband.

take care and I wish you many many happy years!!

bb

Its great to hear things are going so well with you. Keep us posted....

Thank GOD for happy ending. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I was beginning to think there are no longer happy stories around.

You gave us some hope. It is great.

H_P,

It is soo good to read your posts. Keep the updates coming. You are an inspiration for many here. Did you ever tell your H about this site? If so, what did he think?

Take care and God Bless,

JL

Hi Everyone,
Thanks for your great support and words of encouragement.

It still seems like a miracle that I'm back with my husband again.

JL, I did tell him about the site right before we were married. I told him he was welcome to check it out, and read my old posts-- all of them-- if he wanted to do so.

He chose not to come here and read at all. We have read "His Needs, Her Needs" together. It's funny, but it's hard for my husband to pinpoint his needs. He could only find three, really, that are main ones for him. As he says, he's an independent, easy to please person. I, on the other hand, find it hard to narrow it to five main ones!

As far as him not coming here, I think he just doesn't want to know all that I was thinking of and venting about for so long. He knows though that I was ready to give up a few times. I do think someday he will take a peek, but he's not the overly curious type of person, especially about the past. He's a 'here and now' kind of guy.

It's funny, he has asked me very little about exOM. He asked a few graphic questions recently,(after a few glasses of wine, I might add) and I was very honest and direct. He doesn't want more information than what he asks about. My husband is truly wonderful about it, and takes part of the blame in the demise in our marriage and in the climate that helped create the allure of an A. I told him that I take full responsibility, but he won't hear that from me.

I, on the other hand, was quite curious about the woman he dated while we were apart, and yet I didn't ask questions that I knew would serve no purpose in me knowing the answers. ( How did you do it?..etc...I don't need to know. I asked 'where' and that was enough.) I didn't ask her name, and I don't want to know. I wish she still didn't work where he does, but she does. He's told me he avoids her completely, and when I went there we steered clear of her 'area'. I'm filled with a strong curiosity about her, and I'm sure that's normal. It was a blind date set up, in a way, and it wasn't someone he was innately drawn to or attracted to so that helps. (She looks nothing like me, complete different ethnicity, etc, not his 'type', as they say.) I feel badly she was hurt, but there again we were still married so she shouldn't have 'dated' a married, but separated, man. (this was before divorce was final, or even filed.) Basically though I'm just elated that he didn't fall in love with her. I feel very lucky.

I still grieve for the mess we made in our lives, and that we were both untrue to our first marital vows. On the other hand, what we went through truly made us stronger as a couple and as individuals--so I have to look at the positive.

I've vented a bit here today. All this is stuff I've of course said to my husband. I'm glad my story and outcome are a help to people.

Take care and thanks again,
H_P

It is proper for you to thank the many that helped you, but remember to take some credit yourself. You did not give up even when it seemed hopeless - and that counts for whole lot.

You make me smile - I read your post to my W and she says "good for them!" I know it's an understatement, but I echo it - good for both of you !!!

Thanks for the update - it is so nice to know you are doing well.

SS

Great to hear from ya, HP! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />