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I have a problem with those who knew that he was having an affair and did nothing. I have a much bigger problem with those who knew and covered up for him (his brother) he used his brothers house for meeting up with his married other woman, whenever I called his brother would cover for him. My H says that the affair was his fault, not his brothers and if I can forgive him I should forgive his brother too. I can't! I can't get over being treated with such a lack of respect when I have been "family" for so many years. I feel like this is causing us to drift apart, but I can't pretend to like people I truly don't like so I have nothing to do with him at all.
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I can't stay away from music too!
About dealing with family and friends I had to deal with the mom who knew and worst of all did want us to Divorce(despite that I have 2 little boys with him) he doesn't have any kids other Kids. Well I understand is hard to forgive the family but I won't let her ruin my days! I tell myself despite all you did his here w/me!!!! I hold my head high whenever I shoul encounter her. I do avoid her at all costs.
My brother divorce 4 years ago and little did I know that he would go during the day when my house was empty to talk on the phone with the lover. His now seperating from the lover and dying to go back with first wife. I personally did tell her when I found that my bro. was doing that. I didn't want to loose touch w/my nephews or her. She says she can't forgive and won't go back. She claims we all knew and hid it from her! We didn't! She doesn't hold a grudge now but says it took her 2yrs of silent hatred toward all in my family.
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tml, I would have a hard time forgiving family members who actively engaged in the destruction of my marriage and my family. Perhaps if they apologized and asked forgiveness I could. But other than that, I would have no use for them and wouldn't associate with them even if I did forgive them. People like that are destructive and are to be avoided.
<small>[ March 29, 2004, 10:05 PM: Message edited by: MelodyLane ]</small>
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