Guys,
You are amazing <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> I would like to thank you for your response, support and advices.

believer...I'll try with a plan A. I hope I won't have reason to start with a plan B. Temporary separation is extremely difficult issue because of the financing. If we decide to take that step we'll have to sell our house. I know that we'll have to sell anyway if we decide to divorce...but for now I would rather wait. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

JustJ...Good guess about Italian's and infidelity. However, I am not from Italy but close to the Italy (former Yugoslavia). Unfortunately, it is worst than Italy now. After the war between 1990- 2000 things turned to be worst in the terms of the society and positive values that make one society healthy. So, family as an institution lost many good qualities comparing with the families in the past. Drugs, prostitution, criminal gangs are everywhere. Girls are in the "constant hunt for the good marriage opportunity" west oriented (someone who lives in the other European countries or overseas) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> . Ironically, there are many good looking girls (you would be surprise to see so many good looking people in a such small country) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> . You don't want to know the rest of it.

Guys, I'll give you an update about my situation soon. I'll start to read some of the books available on line for the beginning. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Did you read any? Why are you on MB (what are your problems)?

betrayed lady

Hi betrayed! I don't even know where I got the idea that you were Italian. Sorry for the assumption.... and even more sorry that the state of the family is so poor in your home country.

My own story is one of the most complicated and odd of any on MB. You can read it, if you'd like over on my thread.

The best books to read are LoveBusters, Surviving an Affair, and NOT Just Friends.

I have met lots of wonderful people from all over the world on this site. The interesting thing is how underneath it all, we have the same problems.

Start in Plan A and stick to it for awhile. See what happens. Then there is always Plan B.

And if worse comes to worse, don't assume you will have to sell the house. In California, if there are minor children, sometimes the person who has the children can keep the house.