Wow… there are so many that I wish I’d have written them down as they were said. Here are just a couple off the top of my head…

When I referred to OM as “That @sshole…”
WW – “…Just because I like someone else right now doesn’t give you the right to call him names.”
(ummmm, yeah I think it does actually…)


WW – “You just don’t get it, I didn’t leave for anyone else, I left because of you.”
(The day before D-day she gave me a card saying how much she loved me)

WW – “You are the most emotionally damaging person I have ever met… I hate you!”

Me (on the topic of us divorcing) – “Do you really think this is going to be any good for the kids?”

WW – “Yes, I will be a better mother because I will be happier, and the kids will be happier in return and they deserve to have a happy mother.”
(Huh!?!?!...got that one right out of the play book, eh!)

WW (on the topic of MB) – “You just don’t see how much this cult has done to destroy our M… I was thinking of coming home… but not now. Maybe you can use this stuff on your next W.”
(Oh yeah…. And the 2 A’s had NOTHING, NOTHING to do with our marital troubles….nope, none.)

One of my favorites…
“Why are you doing this to me…??? You are ruining my life…”
(Excuse me…. How exactly am I doing this… YOU had the A, YOU walked out, YOU filed for divorce…)

WW (calling from @ssholes house at 11:00 pm) – “…you still think I had an affair??? What makes you so sure…???”


There are many, many more… I just can’t think of them right now… maybe more later.

Oh, oh, oh... I remember another that made my blood boil:

WW (on the subject of why she is having an A) - "You pushed us into it. It never would have happened if you didn't bring it up (when I began to question her behavior). We weren't even thinking of having an affair."

(Weeelll...then what were you thinking...???)


UUUUGGGGGHHHHH!!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

<small>[ June 14, 2004, 02:58 PM: Message edited by: Want My Wife Back??? ]</small>

How about
"I love you and care about you very much. But I am not in love with you. I was at one time but my feelings have changed" (wonder if that has anything to do with OP) Of course it does dummy!!

How about this one. "OP says he is God" (and of course you believe him right). What alien brain mess that is.

I think I already posted some fogese earlier on this thread but here's a few more for kicks:

WH: "I really just need a break from our marriage but I'm not tired of YOU."

WH: "This is bizarre".-when discussing how we are not going to be talking as friends anymore.I told him it's not bizarre,it's SICKENING.

WH: "will we ever get back together,I can't say". Well I told him that we won't.He blew it.

WH: "We should have had an amazing marriage that lasted 100 years".

Well DUH. But I don't live on Fantasy Island and oh yeah,"LIFE has a funny way of sneaking up on you". Alanis Morrissette

Plus,a marriage is what you make it and he did nothing but let it slip out of his hands while I held on for dear life.But I am in the process of letting go now too.What a shame,on him.
O

<small>[ June 14, 2004, 05:51 PM: Message edited by: Octobergirl ]</small>

I have a ton of them...
1)"I have this client who is remarried after three years of divorce to his xw. You should just let me go a while b/c you know I will always come back."
2)We were never friends. We didn't have anything in common. I am attracted to you but not in love with you.
3)Sure I stayed over at her house after attending the "Song of Solomon" marriage conference. She got me the tickets b/c she thought it would help "us" heal (me and x). And she was so broken after the conference crying saying that for the affair she was going to hell that I stayed over...on the couch of course."
4)she is not living with me
5)she is not pregnant.
6)(I was told this in feb/early march of this year) "I guess I will always love you and it's kinda sad."
7)I did not break into your house (nevermind he was caught on video by police and subsequently arrested for trespassing and spent a night in jail and had a 3 month restraining order against him)

I have a ton of them...
1)"I have this client who is remarried after three years of divorce to his xw. You should just let me go a while b/c you know I will always come back."
2)We were never friends. We didn't have anything in common. I am attracted to you but not in love with you.
3)Sure I stayed over at her house after attending the "Song of Solomon" marriage conference. She got me the tickets b/c she thought it would help "us" heal (me and x). And she was so broken after the conference crying saying that for the affair she was going to hell that I stayed over...on the couch of course."
4)she is not living with me
5)she is not pregnant.
6)(I was told this in feb/early march of this year) "I guess I will always love you and it's kinda sad."
7)I did not break into your house (nevermind he was caught on video by police and subsequently arrested for trespassing and spent a night in jail and had a 3 month restraining order against him)

Ws to me about moving out" I have to stop hurting you"

ws about ncl " i won't hurt her again" oh but you can destroy your wife and children

"I never meant to hurt you.. Funny thing is I never thought you would care or that you even liked me." No I just have been maried to you for the last 14 years to pass time.

about moving out. "you're way ahead of me , you make it sound like it is a done deal I haven't said that it is"

when asked why he called her again this week was it just to let her know she is still in the running? "Yeah I guess so"
"
"I have tried being home with you and the kids but I can't seem to get over her so I need to try something else. Moving out and being with her." Although the longest he has gone without at least talking to her was 2 weeks.

"How will I ever know if it is just the fantasy life if I don't try it and see"

And soo many more good ones.

Ws to me about moving out" I have to stop hurting you"

ws about ncl " i won't hurt her again" oh but you can destroy your wife and children

"I never meant to hurt you.. Funny thing is I never thought you would care or that you even liked me." No I just have been maried to you for the last 14 years to pass time.

about moving out. "you're way ahead of me , you make it sound like it is a done deal I haven't said that it is"

when asked why he called her again this week was it just to let her know she is still in the running? "Yeah I guess so"
"
"I have tried being home with you and the kids but I can't seem to get over her so I need to try something else. Moving out and being with her." Although the longest he has gone without at least talking to her was 2 weeks.

"How will I ever know if it is just the fantasy life if I don't try it and see"

And soo many more good ones.

Here are a couple I got from WW’s dad (my father in-law… who I thought I had a pretty good relationship with) of all people, in an email correspondence…

“Whatever support you had interrupted for your "plan B" went out the window when the truth started to surface. The only pledge that we “feel like living up to” is the same one as always and that is looking out for the health and well being of our Daughter and our Grandsons. You made a statement about “you have done all you can do” that is incorrect, there's one more thing, you can stand up like a man and make sure that these kids are taken care of.”
(This came when I inquired about the loss of their support… how he was making the claim my kids were not taken care of is beyond me.)


“Here are some things I need you to dig down and really consider-HARD.”
(His plan for me to get their support back and save the M)

“1. Getting professional help-a website on the internet will not do it, and is not doing it. You personally need some help to handle this. You need to deal with reality-there are people that can help you with that”
(Yeah… nevermind the fact that I was working with 2 different counselors and had read 5 books on the subject at that point… I always wondered what expertise he felt he had in the area if infidelity to allow him to make this determination.)

“2. Stop acting like a stalker-and knock off the games.”
(Apperantly checking up on my WW and uncovering all the lies is considered stalking to him… I guess I was supposed to just take the lies at face value and go blindly about my life… Of course he never wanted to see any of the evidence of her A. What the [censored]...!?)

“3. Step up to the plate and be responsible, be someone that your kids can aspire to and not be afraid of. I think all of this can be worked out with a reasonable result if you will cooperate. If you show that effort so will we. This does not have to be a sideshow, and it will result in damage to the kids. If you expect them to respect their Dad than show them that you can be that way.”
(His reaction to the exposing in plan A and no contact of plan B. I wonder what he thinks a reasonable result would have been… I didn’t think I could have remained calm enough to actually hear the answer to that question… so I never asked. And he never did tell me what exactly I was doing that was disrespectful or irresponsible… I did ask that question.)

“4. Settle your debt's-I will personally guarantee you that the money for the car will go directly to the welfare of the kids. If you want to start with improving things you would settle this so I can help them out. You have obligations here and this will help them. Your failure to do this for them will send a message that you are not intending to help them out with the essentials they need. Which up to this point you have failed to provide. Send me a cashiers check the amount owed and I will make sure it all get’s to the boys for their benefit. You have my word on it. “
(His demand that I pay him for the remaining balance of a car that he borrowed WW the money for PRIOR to our marriage!!! My name never appeared on the title however I made every damned payment on the thing until she moved out. I still don’t get how he ever thought my kids were going without…???)


“You need to think real hard about this and it is time for a come to Jesus meeting for WMWB. Show some support and cooperation and you will see some in return-until then nothing changes.”
(Ok….yeah, whatever… I had been having my “come to jesus meeting” for about 4 months at that point. And as far as not having their support…after this letter, I was perfectly fine with that. Although, I would have appreciated him NOT paying for her attorney to file for D!!!)

<small>[ June 15, 2004, 12:12 PM: Message edited by: Want My Wife Back??? ]</small>

I want to add to the xIL's foggy statements...this one is a classic..

1)"You shouldn't be so hard on OW. It's not like she's all bad...I mean, she did vacuum out your house after you moved out." was from xMIL to me...This was told me on moving day when I first officially separated from my x and got a new residence. The IL's were "helping me" move in. After hearing this, I ordered them out of my home and then walked out my wedding portrait to their vehicle.

2)We'll always be supportive of you...(before it got nasty and x didn't pay us for almost six mos...they didn't even offer to buy me a gallon of milk).

3)A year and 3 mos. ago, they show up at my son's Easter Egg hunt and program at his Christian preschool. At one time I'd see xMIL, another time I'd see xFIL but not together. seems they were out in the lobby babysitting OW's illegit child (not my x's; another man's) and didn't want me to see.

4)At son's soccer game in church league last fall: xMIL walks in with preggo OW..FIL comes to game and they stand beside her for 1/2 the game then they come over to me and try to be all nice...I tell them that it's shameful how their son has shacked up with her in full view of their grandson and that they can walk themselves over to the other side of the field and stand by her...they say "well it DOESN'T SEEM TO AFFECT YOUR CHILD". Ultimate IL fog.

FYI...xIL's are on xH's payroll and work for him...he's their bread and butter. xFIL is also a former deacon and big time WH having over five documented affairs. No wonder fog's thick in that family.

Fogese continues.....

WH: "I had A because I have no friends."

WH when discussing A, "I could handle YOU having an A?!!?"

Bump.. for all who need to get to know the "lingo" of "fogese" <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

" OM is a really nice bloke. You'd like him if you got to know him "

OW is a good, fun person
I'm just trying to find happiness
I'll always love you and the baby
I see us always being friends and doing stuff, even if we're not married
I don't think I can ever be married again

"I am not stupid enough to be having an affair with someone I supervise. I could really get into trouble for being involved with someone who 'works under me'. We are just friends." <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Four months later he was fired for carrying on his affair during work hours. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

Let me add a few that i got.
It is a little different from the standard "I always love you but i am not in love with you anymore"
-WW- I will always love you but it is not like i used to love you(huh?????)
-WW- When talking about roconcillation during the fog. How will this affect me and OM?( duh , guess 3 is a crowd.)
-WW- We had a wonderful marraige especially when we had our two beautiful boys.( Kids are 8 and 10 now.) So i guess 2 out of 15 years is pretty good???
Alien wife was pretty self centered during that time.
jets

***I love you but not in love with you.
***Maybe I never really loved you.
***Our son will be fine...maybe it will make him
stronger.
***I'm just not happy and need to find myself.
***I love you out of comfort and security.
***We don't meet in the minds!
***You don't respect yourself (Look who's talking
about respecting themselves) UGGHHH
***It's not OW fault...has nothing to do with her..it's between you and me.

I could go on forever!!!!!

TR
forgot that one too.
"It is not OM fault this is between you and me."
A few more.
"OM not the idiot you are."
"Please don't get the OM in trouble."
"Why doesn't anyone understand the way i feel?"

first off in doing this search I came up with multiple posts by WAT with direct links to aliens and recent sightings...including the crazy french cloners....

Anyways...wanted to babble about the fog...

this is how I see the fog...
first off it's just a term for lack of better clarifying the multiple rationalizations that WS use to justify poor and cruel choices REGARDLESS of the feelings behind it..
and it's a lot easier to type...the word
f-o-g...
than my-spouse-who-is-currently-suffering-from-what-we-assume-is-temporary-fleeting-short term long term-confusion because of how they behave...
f-o-g... yep...definitly easier...

Although WS I am sure interpert the use of fog as derogotory....It's less derogotory than their actoins...

and it does not excuse them..but it does the relieve the BS from feeling like they should engage in insane powerstruggling.....cause WS love divergent tatics...and love to power struggle...takes focus on the FACT their actions hurt people...regardless of their feelings....

And it's not even used to deny their confusion and feelings about the OP..but pulling people be it BS/OP down with you in your lies...reflects greatly on your ability to look at yourself in the mirror...

WS use words to blame and attact the BS for their own actions...
they KNOW deep down somewhere...life doesn't work like that....

I believe that WS do this because it is the nature of where their lives are at...and that they do it because they must do it to keep from getting close to and in touch with the reality of their actions...

That fence sitting WS's unable to face or like themselves, do this..
if they were sure what they were doing was sooo right...face it ...they'd be gone...
period...instead they drag everyone along....

Do they know it ?...
I think they know they are doing it...and that they know how irrational they are being...but lets be frank...all of us have continued down a path of riduculousness now and then to save our butts or to beat a dead horse...even while somewhere deep down knowing exactly what we were doing and or saying.....wasn't quite true...

the common threads..
the I love you not in love...
the we never should have gotten married.
the I have to see if this is the right thing...
blah blah blah..

all of it deflects and removes them from responsibility...

if you think the fog is scary...scarier is the wayward spouse who clinically states the marriage is over...and it really is...and is gone...which is not the most people that are here..though it does happen...
no garuntees.....

WS spewing fog talk attempting to appease and please the OP and the spouse at the same...are so caught up in their own hurtful actions...it has no other choice but to cut them to their very soul...and to deny that pain they cause...it is easier to keep laying on the deflection....

if you are in plan A..and hear the fog....feel pity for even they know what they are saying is for their own ears in hopes they can convince themselves enough to believe the babble...and justify what they do...

if you are in plan B...thank God each night you no longer have to be the receiver for such chaos and rewriting of history...

if you are in WATS plan...wear foil anntennaes on your head...and wait for the mother ship to come back and retreive it's lost little babbling aliens...


ARK

Here are a few:

'our marriage has been over for a long time' (its only been 9 months)

'we should've never got married. it was more about me being a princess for the day' (uh-huh)
and then
'i wouldn't said my vows if i did mean them'

'i dont love you anymore'

'we would make great friends, but we dont make great partners'

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