Just read your post (clicked thru thread) and I want to say your bravery and well written words have given me a view of what could be my life for the next year. I know it has not been easy for you, but your bravery makes it seem all the more "do-able"

I am the wife of your WP OM. My WH was in an almost 2 year off and on A with a woman in a long term releationship with another woman. Her partner let her go and enjoy the occasional man - HAH!

It is all the same no matter how you partner.

This OW tried to befriend me and make it appear that there was nothng going on by telling me all about her and her partners life, share funny stories, get parenting advise, make general chatter. The entire time she was having the ocassional recreational sex with my husband!

and promising a threesome to him(gee wouldn't that be fun...kept him hanging on waiting)

BTW her partner didn't know either!

She is a serial other woman - just in it for the fun.

I hope you and your DD continue to enjoy all the fun stuff that Mom's and Daughters do. These are such special times and she is lucky to have you.

Thanks for sharing your story.

Gollly AnotherOne, I'm really sorry to hear of your situation. Have you spoken to the OW's partner? I'd suggest you do that if you haven't. (Though maybe you have, since you know she didn't know.)

I hope, sincerely, that the OW in your situation is much like I was -- basically ethical, but completely naive in terms of how much damage things like this can cause. That does not change one thing about what you and your WH should do (NC, etc.). It just means that I hope the OW and her partner make it through this and that they both have the ability to learn from this awful situation.

If you want to, you're more than welcome to point them in my direction. I'd be happy to give them a few pointers (RATHER pointed, in the case of the OW <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> ).