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Focus your thoughts on the person you want to be
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This is from the book, "How to Mend a Broken Heart".

Fortunately, the mind can concentrate only on one thought at a time and we can choose what that thought will be. Because of this and because what we keep thinking about affects how we feel and what we do, we need to focus our thoughts on the person we want to become.

A constructive way to build a shattered self image is to make a point of thanking God for all of the good things in your life, and thinking about these.

The apostle Paul says, "Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable - if anything is excellent or praiseworthy - think about such things."
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Believer, this is good.

I wish D can learn this. But it is hard for her, even myself have trouble dealing with the thoughts.
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But if you consistently think about such things, your frame of reference will change.
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I have been trying to put my mind on other things since all of this came about. At first it was the hardest thing for me to do. But today, I am able to concentrate on other things like my job and starting to rebuild my life. The portion of the book that is posted is some really great advise. I just wish that I was able to do this in the begining.
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Yes, I know that I need to work hard in this area. I need to think deep that what I want to be.

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