My H use to be extremely affectionate, He ofcourse changed due to the A. We are in recovery he never says I LOVE YOU he says I want you. Which is empty for me. I wonder if the affection Comes back.

I do ask for a hug. H hugs me but like O.K. Be happy and move on.

Hello,

The simple answer is affection can come back. It took a long time in my marriage, but it did.

How long has it been since D-Day?

I the D-Day the day it blew in the open 77/03
The Day we started recovery 2/4

We are not even close to recovery because we are dealing with withdrawal at the moment. However, I'll explain the affection in our situation. On 1/8 H told me he had feelings for OW, but they never told each other. For months before this there was no affection due to the A. Anyway, after he told me this I remember being in bed with him and trying to just rub his back or something. Wasn't even sexual. He literally recoiled from me. I couldn't believe it. After a few days he loosened up a bit. Two weeks later the EA was revealed. Three days later the PA was revealed. We actually had some passioante sex going on at that early time. When withdrawal set in, almost 5 weeks ago, the sex literally stopped. In just the last few days he's feeling attracted again towards me. Who knows how long that will last? Ever since the EA was revealed we are very affectionate as far as holding each other in bed, hugs, and much touch comfort from me. However H is beginning to do that for me more now also.

It's a friggin rollercoaster. Who knows what's over the next hill? Hang in there! CV