You can read some of my background on the post "Wife with OM now" from 3/30. I just want to know if it would be a good idea to introduce my wife to marriage builders site now. I'm not sure if it would do any good because I'm not even sure if the affair is ended or not. We are going to be apart for a week with her going with our two girls to her fathers and me going home to my family for Easter. I just know that I have to give her something to think about while we are apart. What do you think! I know this is early in the morning but I am overseas so you can reply later and I will check back!

staggered

I tried to introduce my WH to MB site. It didn't work at all. Says it doesn't pertain to him.

But the way I look at it is it doesn't hurt to ask, ask nicely, don't demand. If she resists, drop it.

I've learned that the most work is on the BS shoulders. And another way I looked at it was if my WH would have read it then he would maybe have looked at the way I have been acting as a "mirror" to the site concepts and could interpret it as manipulation.

That's just my non pro opinion/

staggard

I'm trying that now. I'll let you know if it worked for me or not <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Thanks for the input! Any other opinions? I really have to take action in the next two days.

Staggered...What I would do when my FWH was in FOGLAND is I would just print out things that I thought would have an impact on him and give them to him and have him read them in front of me. He was more than willing to read them. When he came by the house, I would ask if he wanted to see my posts on here.

You ahve to understand that when a WS is "under the influence" they are NOT in the right mind. Period. I did not ask my H to join MB until AFTER he came home and the A ended. he was more than willing at that time and he LOVES coming here to post. He loves the feedback and it is trully helping him with his pain and such.

You can ask your WS to join, but dont get too disappointed if she says no. She may even say "haha, I have nothing in common with these folks"...

It's true, most of the burden is falling on your shoulders at this moment. You have to be the strong one here. She is not herself. She is an alien right now. She is under the influence. Have you given her Truehearts letter? YOu might want to try that, although I am not sure if it would affect her or not. I dont know how much it affected my WH at the time. Just remember NO LBING! NONE!

I read your other post and I advise against trying to "educate" her at this time.

But I DO advise you tell her father ASAP! Do it the same way you told her sister - emphasize you want to save your marriage and keep your family intact. But, do not ask her father - or other relatives - to go to bat for you. Let them decide how they want to respond.

Assume the affair is still in full swing.

Plan A, Plan A, Plan A.

Most WS (like, 99% of them at least) won't like the BS trying to "educate" them.

I really have to take action in the next two days.

Why?