Hello, my husband and I began dating 10 years ago. We never fell "in love" before we got married 6 years ago. Since marriage was strongly encouraged at our church, my husband asked me to marry him because he felt that I was a good person and although he had his reservations about me he felt it might work. Reservations were due to "Love Busters" during dating. I wanted to marry him well before he asked me. Frustration about his lack of committment led to my "Love Busters", I believe. Since we've been married, we have never experienced being "in love". Now my husband has gotten into contact with a woman (whose in the process of a divorce) he can't live without. He says that if this woman wasn't married or if he felt he had a chance with her when we got married, he would have never married me. He feels like he is in an arranged marriage and he doesn't know if he can ever be "in love" with me. IS THERE ANY HOPE FOR THIS SITUATION?

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Hello, my husband and I began dating 10 years ago. We never fell "in love" before we got married 6 years ago.
You dated for 4 years and got married but were never in love?

I wanted to marry him well before he asked me.
But you were not in love. Why did you want to marry him?

Chris,
He was a nice guy and I came to care a great deal for him. There wasn't much affection shown in his immediate family - so I assumed that he didn't know how to show romantic feelings, etc. I thought that after we got married and were committed to each other, he would feel free to express himself and mine toward him. Hindsight is 20/20 ... through our recent, honest conversations, he informed me that he didn't express those type of feelings because he didn't feel those feelings coming from me. He called it the chicken and the egg problem. So I didn't feel it soon enough in our marriage and LB began - 6 years, 2 children later, here we are.

J