3isacrowd, your thread on attractivness being a selfish EN, generated a lot of interesting thoughts for sure! I'd like to bounce off your post by asking a flip side of the coin type question. Some of the BS's went and had plastic surgery post DDay. (Bet you gals look great!)This got me wondering...

Elective surgery is one of those personal preference things of course, yet it still falls under POJA. (Well at least in my house. We go around and around on this topic.) Would it be considered selfish to want to have plastic surgery if spouse is opposed, or to not want plastic surgery if spouse wants you to?

Another question is if you did have plastic surgery,what effect if any,did it have on your relationship with your BS? For those who are the BS's if your spouse had plastic surgery prior to the A do you think it contributed in any way to the affair?

How did you know I would look here LOL

I would love to see the responses to this one .

Cause my thougts are so confused , IF it is a NEED as some say then ,,,,,,,,,,I guess one would have to get plastic surgery ..

and I guess if the OTHER thing is if you want it and the other is opsed then you can't get it cause there NEED for you to be you is the NEED ,

WOW this EN thing and POJA is weird and I guess one can punch holes through any thought .

IS then the person who wants the other to get the plastic sergery SHALLOW YET !

OH I got the need to know, LOL I AM only kidding .

I think it comes down to no ones needs are anything but what they are . There needs are there needs .

well good luck in your search

I've met a few posters here face to face. They will vouch for me.

I have NOT had hair implants!!!!!!!!!

Oh, that's not what you meant?