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I am very new to this, but I have been reading for a while. My question goes out to all the WWs and FWWs out there: Why?
The issue for me is long past. But, as I reflect on my life, I still wonder why my first wife did the things she did.
My first wife left for her affair(s) and returned to me pregnant with her lover's child. Since we already had two children, I tried to keep the family together. She didn't even offer to give me a couple more children of my own to make up for her affair(s). Twelve years later, she left all of us "to find herself."
WHY?
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RAG -
I don't think you will ever get an answer to your very good question.
It sounds like your FW had some pretty awesome personal demons.
Hopefully some day you can get to a place where you realize it probably had nothing to do with you. At least you know where you are and what you are doing. She is lost.
Every day I am grateful I am not a WS. Being a BS is painful, but I still know who I am and what I believe in.
Lots of love. I am so sorry for your pain.
SS
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Well said SS. Rag you could beat yourself up as to why, I find myself asking this question everyday but I might as well be hitting my head against a wall. I too am sorry for your pain RAG hang in there.
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about the only answers i've been able to find are that God has a plan for us and we don't know what it is, and reading his needs/her needs help me understand why the WS do what they do. I contributed to the situation that my M is in but we are all responsible for the choices we make. What i like is that even though i know that i contributed in a big way, i feel good (if that's possible right now) about what i know now and that given another chance it would be different. because unless you can change time it will never be the same.
don't know if this helped. I'm still trying to find out what God's plan is myself, will i ever truly know? only time will tell. prayers to you.
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Thank you for your thoughts. All this happened years ago. I am not in pain now. As an older person, I was just reflecting on the past. It would have been so much easer on everyone if she acted right. I read so much of wondering women with good men at home and I wonder why.
FW has been married three or four times since, and is now living alone.
I am happly married to a wonderful woman.
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