Having a rough time with inusrance matters for the pregnancy, so H is geting to be my hero (oh, the hormonal tears...).<BR>His cell phone bill came today, and i have not opened it...i just don't need the pain, and y'all are the only ones who could understand that act of will power .<BR>Anyway, he's been home a couple weeks now, we are polite, but i am getting desparate for affection. Maybe i should just ask him?<BR>He's still sleeping in the other room, and we are very polite and friendly, but i just wish he would smile at me like he used to, hug me when he comes home, sleep in the same room with me...I'll have to evaluate my actions...perhaps he wants the same thing?<BR>Well, off to do domestic things (dinner? laundry? i still can't get used to it! not to mention keeping the 2yo up till H gets home. He gets sooooo grumpy if he's up past 7!).<P>oh, thoughts of OW are FINALLY beginning to recede, thank heaven...i was going insane!<BR><P>------------------<BR>for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, for richer or for poorer, till death do us part.<P><BR>

lWb:<P>I totally understand how much strength it takes for you to leave that bill alone.<P>I've done much the same thing the last few months...I just don't need the extra aggravation!<P>Take care of yourself...jt

hello lwb, What is your due date?? <BR>You already know what is on the bill, so why bother to open it at all? Are you running out and finding things that will give you pain? It is like raising your hand to voluteer for more pain! <BR>Give it to your h, ask him to take care of the bill. I might even tell him why in a very respectful way. Next month's bill should be fine, so this is a temp issue.<BR>Take good care of self and baby!! cl

Good job on the phone bill. It's taken me awhile to learn not to do things that I know will make me crazy.<P>On the subject of affection, my counselor said it would be difficult with my H's guilt, withdrawal & remorse for him to offer me affection and for me to go ahead and be affectionate without expecting anything back. One of my mottos is "Lowered expectations". I kiss him when I see him, cheek, lips, neck, whatever I can reach (I'm short comparted to him). Hugs, often from the back. Pats in passing. Lots of smiles (Lord, knows he's probably seen enough of my tears to last him the rest of his life).<P>And even though he's planning to move out, he's become very affectionate in return, including sending me email, calling, stopping by my work. My counselor told me yesterday that I have one of the most unusual situations he's ever seen. My H & I get along. He loves me. He wants to move out.<P>God bless.

Thanks lor and cl.<BR>I didn't open it, but he left it here, which he never does, and there were no calls to her. yay. (i was prepared for the worst, so nothing could have hurt me).<BR>i asked him why he would not sleep with me, and he said, "i TOLD you, i get all stuffed up in that room!" (uh, no) "YOU could come into my room..." (oh, ok). <BR>Baby's due 10-9. I was going to deliver at the hospital up the street, but there is all this inusrance mess (overreactive nurses, really), so i will go back to my old dr. an hour south of here, and hopefully i can be induced a day or 2 early at a convenient time (she might be born in the car, if i am in traffic going to san jose at 8am or so!!!).<BR>The hormones are getting bad, but i am somehow still managing to not blow up at my H...maybe the pain is finally subsiding? i guess he really ISN'T talking to OW.<BR>He has been really nice about the baby coming, wants to set up the crib and told me it was ok when i was crying about not being an A-1 housewife right now. (big steps, i think maybe some of his resentment at my getting pregnant is fading...but that's a whole 'nother isssue).<BR>Lor-Your H is still planning to move out? ugh.