Hi guys

Here is a post I posted in Recovery that I think may be of help to some of you.


http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/ultimatebb.php?ubb=get_topic;f=31;t=014299
H

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Excellent suggestion Hiker. We can change only one person...

How are you doing? Seems you're well.

So there you are!

We are doing better. I recently $tarted IC the Dr ha$ a very promi$ing approach. But I have di$coverd that there i$ thi$ barrier deep with in me that really doe$n't allow me to truly become intimate with anyone. This last week end in a different session (Loss of Relationship group). I was taken through some steps that will help me tp overcome that barrier.
I'm on a new med for depression. I went to the IC primarily because I want to be off medication. If I can get over the barrier the new Dr promi$e$ I can be off the meds and live a much more fulfilled life. I am excited about that prospect.
your pal
H

Good for you. Don't forget to work on your relationship with the Lord. (The homily for Palm Sunday was very insightful and timely--I have changed churches and am getting a lot out of it.)

Take care. I read your posts every so often. It seems like you are a great help to a lot of people.

P.S. I will be the only WS on this forum struggling to get their BS into counseling. Another first. Oh well.

That just underscores my point. Some people think it is a "guy" thing and if it is I don't know why. Maybe because my own father was so stubborn about it I am willing to work on it with the help of others. After all "he didn't have a problem" while the rest of us in that house became emotional messes(is that a word?...it is now).
H

Hiker,

It's probably more a guy thing than otherwise, but plenty of women stay in denial about a good many things. Sometimes deep denial, where the truth is obscured at any cost.

There are at least 5 people in my life, and out of it, that I wish/wished would get counseling...but instead of thinking about it I found myself a counselor that I really, really like...and my life is so much better as a result. He is willing to work with my H individually and us together (I chose one with relationship/marriage expertise) but the last time I mentioned it to H he said he didn't need it.

So...I conclude again that your statement is very valid. I have discovered many purposes to the counseling than I had at first. It also helps to have done therapy before, in life, and to have been forced to face hard truth. All subsequent therapy is the more fruitful. Now I know how to get my money's worth. ;-)