Do the counselors call you? I hope there is a messagep="nh a number on my answering mechine.

<small>[ April 07, 2004, 08:28 AM: Message edited by: The Tinman ]</small>

Hey Tinman - No, you call them. When you make the appointment, they will give you their direct phone number (it's free). You simply call them at your scheduled appt. time and go from there!

Glad to see you're getting some counselling with the pros - I ALWAYS feel better after a session with SH.

I didn't get a number to call and I'm doing mine at night with Jennifer. Thanks for the info though WHB.

Call the number back and they will give you her direct number! When we cousel with SH sometimes he runs anywhere from 5 mins to an hour behind schedule, just as in any Dr's office. I am not sure how accurate Jennifer is with her hours, but SH tends to talk until he KNOWS you understand him. he spoke to us for over an hour our first session!

good luck tinman, i was very nervous too for my first session, which like you, i think is weird but i managed to get through it okay and will have my 3rd session on thursday. make sure and post here to let us know how it went. you may not be able to tell a lot from the first session but you will have an idea. i won't be able to check back until tomorrow. prayers to you.

Good luck to you tinman. Hope it goes well for you.

Love
mtheart

I still have no number to call I'm trying to call the scheduleing and get the answering machine. I guess I'll just keep calling. Also thank you all for the support.

Hi Tinman,

I have been couseling with Jennifer for the past few weeks. I also have a session tonight. Jennifer is out of the country right now. As a result, she always calls me. I do not have a number to reach her so don't worry. She will call you at the designated time.

Good luck!

Thank you SAH that's a relief.

thinking about you tinman, hope it was helpful tonight, let us know.

Me, too, Tinman. Please give us an update when you're done...... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Me three <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Well I just got off the phone with Jennifer and off to Plan B I go. This is going to be the hardest thing that I've ever had to do. In the long run though Jennifer is right all I'm doing now is subtracting from my W LB. She also told me that my W is blatently disreguarding my feelings by living with the OM. She says the only way to save our M is for me to go into Plan B. I had a feeling that this is what she was going to tell me. I guess if you believe in something enough no matter what the personal cost to myself this is what has to be done. Everytime I talk to my W lately I get all twisted up inside and feel like crap, but when I don't talk to her I am ok. Jennifer said that Plan B is not for just me or my W but for both of us. I'm going to need a ton of support from you guys. So I will start working on my letter tomorrow night, I need a new printer cartridge for my computer or should I hand write it out? I'm not sure. Jennifer said to send her the letter to proof read it and she will let me know what corrections to make. I think I can do this because this is the only way I can save our M.

Good luck, Tinman, just know you will get lots of support here. There are many others here who could also benefit from your experience with Jennifer so I hope you will share what she says about the Plan B letter.

I hope you feel positive about all this. I think she is one smart lady and if anyone can help you, she can!

Thanks ML I'm sitting here right now crying in my beer with the realization of what has to happen. I have to be strong for both of us and if that's what it's going to take then I will do this for us. I'm no longer saying I'm doing things for me or my wife, from now on it's for us.

You can do it. It is hard...but take it from me, whatever you do, do not fall out of Plan B if you can help it. I did, and I lost a prime opportunity to end this whole game sooner. Plus, it hurt like hell, because WH was mean and cruel (acting out because he did not like the isolation of plan B), and it really damaged my feelings for him. Which was counter to the whole reason one gets into Plan B in the first place.

THESE PEOPLE ON MB site are awesome. They will help you!

Hey Christy my MB partner thank you for your support I'm going to need it. I will be strong, if I think of picking up the phone I will think of you and what you went through. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

You can do this. And one day, your W will thank you for your love and support.

Now, go find some country songs that talk about strength, undying love, and faith. You will be personifying all three! :-)

good luck tinman. my prayers will be with you.

Once you get the hang of Plan B, it is very pleasant. I have done it (with a few slips) since September, and am feeling much better. It gets you off the rollercoaster and lets you start enjoying life again. Good luck.