Just wanted to say HI.
I tried to post on your thread in recovery, but for some reason it kept saying I was not logged in.

Anyway GREAT NEWS
My what progress you two have made. Welcome to recovery. Be ready for a bittersweet road ahead. All sorts of emotions will arise as this goes on.
Continue to post and try and keep communication up with H. Support each other. This recovery is really hard.

You current MC sounds great and has helped the two of you come a long way. I suggest you keep this up.

I am so happy for you.
Sorry I haven't posted for a while to you.
I have been down to see my kids again. Daughter had operation on toe. Went to see my thesis supervisor. I have extended again to June. I was determined not to do this, oh well. Hope I finish it by then. I want my life back. I have applied for a new job so will be back at work soon. I am looking forward to that. I love my work. I am just going to have to get my thesis done in my time off.
love C&S

Bumping up.
I can see you here. Hope you are not avoiding me.
C&S

Of course I am not avoiding you! I cannot believe you posted to me like that - I was getting ready to do that to you! I was going to call you out.

I have been thinking of you a lot lately. Isn't it weird how quickly my sitch has turned around?

H and I have been spending the night with each other since last Saturday. He is moving home now, canceling the lease on his apartment. He is committed to NC with OW while we are working on our M. I believe NC needs to be his decision, and he will not be pressured into it. The MC is working his magic in that area, as well.

But for now and in the near future, NC. Which is better than I had one week ago.

H has reserved a room at the Anniversary Inn for us this Saturday night. He is going to wine and dine me. I have been to Victoria's Secret. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Emotions I wasn't expecting have already come up. I will post them here, and get feedback. It is hard to tell where they are coming from. Like suspicion - he has done nothing to make me suspicious, but yesterday I was paranoid. Not today.

Strange.

I think some of it are my issues, not anything he is doing. But instinct and intuition is what told me something was amiss last time, as well.

So . . .

Time will heal us. We just have to do the best we can in that time to heal the best we can. I feel really good about keeping my family together. My boys love having their dad back. He is their hero again. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Sorry to hear about your thesis. I say, just set your mind to finishing it, crank down and get it done. You will be so thankful to yourself when you do. That is what I have to do when I am feeling overwhelmed by something (if that is what you are feeling). Just jump in, it doesn't have to be perfect (if that is what you are feeling).

As 2oak says, it's not rocket surgery. Although, in your case, it probably is close! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Not much of a pep talk, huh? Well, you get the gist of what I mean, hopefully.

Well, I am off to the gym. Thanks for posting to me, and checking in. I have missed you.

Lots of love!

SS

Now <bump> back at you, girlfriend!

You are not avoiding me now, are you???

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SS, I am so glad to hear all the good news abpuit you. How did you do it?

I know you are patient and loving. I want to read your thread, can to point it to me?

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C&S -

Where are you??? How are you???

Chat at me!!!

SS

Hey Spider
Sorry, it has been busy over Easter. My two big kids have been up and it was great to see them. We had some friends over on Saturday. Their daughter had just missed out on qualifying for the Olympic swim team. It was a bit sad as she has been in the team for the last three years and won a medal at the Commonwealth games and missed out this time when it counts.
Sunday we went to the beach. It was the best weather we have had for a while and I guess winter is fast approaching so we took advantage of it.
The kids have all gone back to Canberra including the youngest who is staying with friends down there. He is on vacation from school.
So it is just hubby and me here this week. That will be interesting. We had a big fight the other night. I LBed all over the place. I was feeling ignored and frustrated at being able to communicate together more deeply than superficial chit chat. All has been apologised and forgiven but I still feel somewhat disconnected at present. I try so hard not to get into these sort of situations, but if we can't communicate I start to feel resentment rising and if I try to brach this and he withdraws or tells me I'm crazy for my feelings I tend to lose my resolve. Does that make sense.

Thanks for the pep talk about the thesis. I am my own worst enemy. You are right I just have to get into it and do it.

How was your night on Saturday. I saw your post on BRs thread. I don't like to gatecrash his thread as I have not posted to him. I looked for a thread of yours but did not see. Thanks for calling me out.

I invested in the lingerie post affair too. I really love it. H now knows what I like for gift.
I bet yours loved you in it.

I am sooo happy for you. Has he moved back in? I think you two are doing great. You are a special woman and your H realises it.

love C&S

C&S -

So good all is well. That is a bummer about the Olympics. I think there is so much pressure with the Olympics, because it is only every 4 years. So if you peaked in between, or injury, or you are just not having the best year, you can be not included. I have always felt that a lot of being in the Olympics is good timing.

I'm glad you got to spend some time with your kids.

H and I had a GREAT Saturday night. We communicated, connected, talked, loved, held, laughed, and are committed to each other and our M and our kids again. It was wonderful.

All of my suspicion issues are my own. I do know what you are saying about the communication and resentment issues. I wasn't communicating my paranoia to H, and it caused me to feel resentment and anger. When I finally told him about my suspicions, he wasn't mad. He assured me all I had to do was ask at any time and I could see his phone, his email, etc.

He also had noticed my attitude shift, and was doubting his own behavior. It is just best to be totally honest all the time, even if you think the other person will get mad. Because if not, one or the other person starts noticing things and wondering and it is no good!

At least, that is how it is with us.

Gotta go cook. Chat at you later!

SS

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C&S -

Check out my thread on Recovery where I called out Pepperband. I also want your opinion. You are very wise, even if you don't think you are.

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Hi SS
Post awaits you on your thread in recovery
C&S