It has been three weeks since I discovered the affair. OW is leaving for another job in 21 long days. I know we can't move on until she is gone but I am trying my best plan A. Some days better than others. I am not a passive person. Last night I went to dinner with a friend and H had told me he was going to write. This helps him. He usually goes to the park. This morning I asked him if he wrote yesterday and he said yes. I asked if he went to the park nearby. He looked at me funny and didn't answer. I asked if it was a secret. He never answered the question and then got ready for work. It makes me suspicious. He also said he ate out and there are no wrappers in the garbage and when I got home I could smell popcorn. I don't know why he would have just eaten supper and then ate popcorn too. I wander if he saw OW and then came home and had popcorn for dinner. Please help. I am dieing to ask him but don't want to LB. What should I do?

Durham...I believe that you are entitled to ask him anything that is on your mind. HE is the one that has got to rebuild the trust with you here. I try very hard now to be completely open with my H about my whereabouts and what I'm doing. He has never made me feel like I need to do that, but I feel like he deserves nothing less. I would come straight to the point with your H though and not try to throw hints out in order to get this from him. If he get's defensive, red flags should go up!