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Thanks mom and wk... I'm definitely in withdrawl then. Man, this is worse than quitting smoking!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
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Because my A was over before H found out I was in withdrawal privately which was HELL then when H found out I was in withdrawal and fog simultaneously.
Now I'm out of fog and well passed the worst of withdrawal. That is the pain, longing, yearning, crying, you name it, has gone but there are still triggers that can set it off again. I'm sorry WK but this post was one of them.
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Kiwi and others as well...
Thank you for your posts. Withdrawl sucks, I can't even begin to tell you what goes through my mind sometimes. Add to that the guilt of feeling bad that I miss the OM and that just makes it worse. I might still be in a fog I don't know. All I know is that I really want the pain, the hurt and longing to go away.
I love my husband dearly and I wish I could just stop these emotions and get on with life. Thank goodness we spent the whole weekend talking - the first time we talked in a long time. It does help talking about it, even if it eases the pain for a moment. I know too that eventually this will get better, my feelings will subside and life will move on. I just want life to move on NOW dammit!!!!
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You don't need to tell us what goes through your mind. We know. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
By the way if you can find the post "letting go of OM" way back in March sometime it will really help you.
Jenny
<small>[ April 19, 2004, 04:21 PM: Message edited by: KiwiJ ]</small>
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I'll have to look that up - thanks!!!
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everyday is a challenge for withdrawel. It seems I am in constant battle with what to do. I want the intensity of OM again-I miss it. It was my drug. The highs are so HIGH-and the lows are beyond painful. I love my H & just want to be back to myself & be happy-pal
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Hey WK -
We don't have private messenging. I can see their point too. People here are in a very vulnerable state and inappropriate relationships could possible develop. People can swap e-mail addy's if they want to but not communicate in private through this board.
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chackler-
how is day today? I agree with whoever said-but sometimes being on boards can bring up memories of OM. I think that is where I was at last week. I am better this week, but it is always under the surface. This morning in the to tub, I was listening to Barbra Streisand, and the song-"you dont belong to me" played- & I thought that is my story-but you know what-I didnt even cry. I am getting better with each day. I just think of all the sh** OM put me thru-things that my H would never say or do. sad sad-it was love with OM for me-but not for him I guess. I think because I gave myself to him physically. I too want to look forward to my happiness in me & my family. hang in there.
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Hey PAL!
I'm doing okay today, so far. It's only 9:30 in the morning though so I have a lot of hours in front of me. The hard part for me is here at work because that's where all of our conversation took place. We don't work together, it was through e-mail. We e-mailed each other a lot throughout our day so not to have that contact is tough - kind of like a void. H & I had a great talk last night and he is being so good to me - I really don't deserve him. He is such a godly man and I, well I'm not. That kind of adds to the guilt too but I know htat in time it will get better.
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my work was same for A. Email & phone with OM. I quit job & now go to school full-time online. OM changed his email address. I try to keep in touch here for advice. I just had "in your face" message from ark under "infidelity movie" thread. I get tired of defending myself. I have enough to deal with getting over A, then get attacked here-I know how whiteknight must feel sometimes. your day will go OK-smile, even when you dont fell like it-some days we all have to fake it!
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PAL:
Sorry to hear that. I haven't read that thread so I don't know what was said. I think it's tough because you have both BS AND WS on here interacting. Both sides are trying to understand and deal with their situations but it's tough, especially for the BS's.
Ugh, don't you wish we had "do over's" in real life? I would never had returned the OM's e-mail when he first sought me out way back...
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It is hard for everyone. That's why I posted, "Does WS go into withdrawal over us."
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I ahve read that thread. Makes me hang my head so low. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />
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chackler, PAL, mtheart and others:
If you need to reach me, you can e-mial me directly - WHITEKNIGHTMB30@YAHOO.COM
Busy week this week, but I'll check it as often as I can.
I hope everyone is well. You're all great.
<small>[ April 20, 2004, 11:08 PM: Message edited by: whiteknight ]</small>
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Thanks WK, thats very kind of you, keep busy my friend and behave yourself <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />
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