uofmfan my fellow Michagander, just a little something if you go out of Plan B and talk to your H he will not respect you because you said no contact unless he stops the affair. If you contact him he knows that you don't mean what you say so if you tell him you've changed yourself and will meet his needs he won't believe you when the time comes to work on your M.

One other thing welcome to this thread post when you need to we're here for eachother.

<small>[ April 16, 2004, 02:51 PM: Message edited by: The Tinman ]</small>

I have a great idea. What if we started a Plan B club. Could we get a moderator, and all jump on a conference call bi-weekly to talk about our Plan B woes (I have a company conference call # we could probably use). What do ya think? Corny? Not necessary? Feel better on the board.

"I need, I need." -- What about Bob.

Son of a B*t*hing BOB. I love that movie. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

WS pulls in around 4:30...I see him out Kitchen window just briefly...boy does he look OLD...I jump in the car and leave out of the garage so we do not see each other...I checkto see if tank work is completed ...Not...now what ...He has only done one thing on my list <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> that means we will have to be in contact again by email <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> ..I was so hoping to get these things done...what a rotter BUT I did stick to Plan B <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

<small>[ April 16, 2004, 03:53 PM: Message edited by: New Outlook ]</small>

i've actually never seen that movie but had planned on renting it tonight! i thought there was a plan B thread already on the planA/B forum. i personally think more people come to the GQII forum but that's JMO. just remember that we are all human and that if something goes wrong w/plan B, just pick yourself up and start again the next day. because we can't change the past. if we could none of us would be here. i'm taking off, don't have computer access where i live right now so i'll check w/all of you on monday. prayers to you all.

tinman. thanks.
worse yet, if i called him, i wouldn't respect myself and right now that's all i have even though its not much. h has managed to push me down to the bottom.

ChristyV.
i think it would be a great idea just to have someone else to talk to. i've worn out all my friends with this stuff and most of them can't understand why i want to keep working on my M.

no.
hang in there. i'm keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. i remember times when i would just see my h from a distance and it still made things hard. right now i don't have to worry about him showing up unannounced since i put 400 miles between us.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> no.
hang in there. i'm keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. i remember times when i would just see my h from a distance and it still made things hard. right now i don't have to worry about him showing up unannounced since i put 400 miles between us.

</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">UOM Fan wish I had that luxury..have yet to run into WS and OW but when I do know it is going to be very hard...have nay of you had that happen and how do you handle it...ignore them and just walk on by?...tough to know what to do <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

NO good job I was thinking about you today and worried, but you did good. I'm proud of you. I don't think I ever have to worry about my W calling me she's so mad right now oh well. I'm debating about going to a bachalor(sp) party tomorrow but I doubt if I will go I'm on call for work so I can't drink. I don't think it would be a good thing to do anyways. After my work tomorrow I will be to tired anyways. Maybe I'll watch the new Matrix movie.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> NO good job I was thinking about you today and worried, but you did good. I'm proud of you. I don't think I ever have to worry about my W calling me she's so mad right now oh well. I'm debating about going to a bachalor(sp) party tomorrow but I doubt if I will go I'm on call for work so I can't drink. I don't think it would be a good thing to do anyways. After my work tomorrow I will be to tired anyways. Maybe I'll watch the new Matrix movie.

</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Hi Tinman..yep I am proud of myself...I read a post earlier about competing with OW and one poster stated that you didn't have to as there were so many memories of the marriage that stays in WS's mind...and if you wore a certain type of perfume etc...so guess what I did ...a little evil I know but sprayed his mail with my perfume <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> ...every year until this year made a family calendar of special pictures of WS and our family...left them on the counter as well today with pictures of us in delivery room with son holding our first granddaughter and another of family picture at son's wedding...see they had been looked through...so if that doesn't make him think nothing will <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Chris,

Yes HINY really stuck with me now! I am still around, still in Plan B. I have been outside enjoying this great weather all day. Now I have to take D shopping. Busy, busy busy. Got to keep busy. I will check in on you all later. Be good now! STAY AWAY FROM THE PHONE! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

HINY

Phone what phone I don't know about any phone. I forgot how to use the phone.

Tinman,

Glad to hear it. Here is my email for everyone in plan B- Tracestar@aol.com. If you feel like calling this weekend just email me instead. I can be anyone you want me to be. I can be a wife, a husband, a friend. I can yell at you, call you names, comfort you however you need me to be, just don't pick up the phone.

HINY

Hey everyone, stick with this thead, we will make it through this. I wish my WH's OW was coyote ugly, but she is not. She is 16 years younger than I, tiny, and cute.

She has no morals, has cheated on her H twice, and abandoned her 12 year old daughter. But WH does not seem to care.

I do have to give her credit though. Last time my WH was complaining about money, I told him that he was working, I am working, my boys are working, but OW was not. So now she is finally working as a nurse's aide.

She has never worked in the 15 years she has been married. Her BH worked two jobs so that she could be a SAHM.

Is there any more room for one more in the Plan B boat? I have D papers here to sign and I don't know what to do.WH is pushing me to the limit.

Uofmfan??? HOLY SMOKES! Do you remember me? We supported each other way back before you Moved or visited your family? Can't remember.

Hopeful,do you live anywhere near the Massachusetts border? That's where I am. Maybe you'd like to come over for a cup of tea? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Believer,I'm sorry to hear about your WH and his fiancial woes.Woe is him right? Ugh.Hang in there.I'm still trailing you.

Tinman,you sound strong.I knew you would be in this plan.Be ready for some ups and downs though,just in case.

Ugh,my Wh just came home for a minute to say good night to the girls.Waaaah.I want to be in Plan B!

Christy is already looking like a Plan B pro once she stays in it for a while!

Sorry if I missed anyone.I can't go back too far without losing my post.

O

Hey, can you all help me on my post on general questions 2. It is OT, about a PFC captured in Iraq. Need your prayers.

Well I am back from shopping. I see nothing major happened while I was gone. I am glad to see everyone is surviving another night of the plan B. Grab a book, or a good flick and sit on down and take a load off. We will all make it, if it feels too dark turn on a light, or get a pet, cats are nice if you can stand the hair. Puppys are always good too, and they are faithful for the most part. Loyal atleast. Anyhow how is everyone doing? Tinman????? How are you tonight? I am drinking a smirnoff ice, just one because I know that more than that will just make me sad. This is just a little nightcap to keep me sleeping through the night. Of course there is the xanax and the benedryl if this doesn't do it. Thank god I have a great Dr. She is so understanding of my situation. I can't imagine having one that didn't.

Well I have to give my DS a bath and put him safe and tight in his bed. Something WH misses out on every night. But, at least I am not missing out on it so I guess it is his loss in the end. I win the game of life no matter what, that is the way I see it. You all have a good night I will be checking in with you peeps in the morning to see if there is any good stuff.
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
HINY

Please help me to pray for the PFC in Iraq. See general questions.

O

We will have to have tea alone and think of each other. I live in Southern/Central NY. I live right around where Cornell University is located, near Ithaca. Anyway cheers. You keep your chin up, you have been at this a really long time. You and I both know this isn't going to last forever. You decide what you want and if you don't want to sign them, then drag your feet like hell. If you really want out then just do it. Life is short, take the time to decide what is right for you. Don't let anyone tell you what you should or shouldn't do, it is all up to you at this point. Good Luck in your decision, I am praying for you. God bless you in your time of need. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

HINY

Chris-CA123

My daughter wanted to know why I signed my name Heiney. You know like as in a$$. Funny.... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

HINY

Octobergirl welcome he!! yeah you can be here. I'm doing fine HINY, mowed the lawn tonight now I'm sitting at the neighbor's house having a few beers and BSing. So far a good night. Back to the beer talk at yall later.