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Seperation...help please!
#1127860 04/14/04 08:45 PM
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She said she wants to move out. She said she needed time to find out what it is like to be on her own. I didn't fight her on the idea I tried to support it, with the understanding that it was only temporary. Today, it was thrown back at me that I didn't even fight her on it and that when she wanted me to leave I said we should fight it out. Of course we should fight it out! I don't want her to leave!! I want this to work! Isn't a marriage about fighting it out? Can any good come out of a separation? The only people I know who have seperated have wound up divorced. Does it help or does it hurt? And how much longer can this go on? Yeah, I'm the WS, and that was a long time ago. What about now? Why can't we make it work now?

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Re: Seperation...help please!
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Don't separate.

It will not help your marriage get better. What will, is getting a copy of Surviving an Affair, and learning about the dynamics of an affair and what both parties feel, and what to expect in reactions. More importantly, it describes why your marriage might have been vulnerable to an affair, and even more importantly, how to fix what's broken.

Read all about marriagebuilders on this site, get the book, read it, discuss it, consider professional PRO marriage counseling, and believe that it can work for you.

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Re: Seperation...help please!
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Well, I got the book Surviving an Affair but I only read a little of it before giving it to WH. (I have another on hold at B&N) He said he'd read it as he was heading off to see the OW in another city. AARGH!! I would love to go thru counseling with a PRO marriage counselor. But PLEASE someone tell me how I can get my H to do that when he won't even give up the OW. I'm here w/ my 3 kids crying my eyes out and he's with HER!. That SOB!

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