My husband has committed to stay and try to work things out. We are both in counseling. The OW works with him and will be leaving in 16 days. The affair lasted 6 weeks until I discovered it. The OW is also married with a child. Her H had an affair on her before so I don't know if this is pay back. My H states he wants to be with me for many reasons and just needs to work his heart back to me. He began to disconnect from me after a bad miscarriage in which he was really hurt. The A came 6 months later. I am pregnant again and he has treated me differently the whole time. I know I must give it time. My question is I feel he isn't open to connecting with me especially physically. He has a wall up. This wall came up after the miscarriage and during my pregnancy. Not to mention the EA and how much she helped him. I wander is he just one day going to feel like being with me in every way. I want to just try everything and see what is there but he states I need to be patient. I hate not being able to be intimate. He also no longer tells me he loves me. I think I am going to be nice but not try to initate anything. Based on what I have read we will not be able to deposit anything until she leaves. Do you think playing hard to get is a good idea?