</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Flowers and candy seem like a small price to pay for happiness and I would be happy to do it, but let's balance the scales shall we? I have done a lot more for her than anyone who could ONLY give flowers and candy, and thos ethings haven't mattered. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Nope, they don't matter. They aren't what makes her tick so they don't matter. You might have given her a lot of things that other men couldn't but you know what, you put an A into your M and that's something 60-75% of the population does so I guess you're not so special after all.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I travel a lot on business. I can go the whole day without calling her and she doesn't seem to care. I can come home after being gone for a week and when I open the front door maybe she'll be there and kiss me, and other times she'll stay on the couch and wait for me to finish petting the cats before she gets up.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Damn, that's pretty selfish of her, isn't it? You've been gone for a whole week and could go an entire day without calling her to tell her you miss her...I don't get it...why isn't she greeting you at the door and kissing your feet? Maybe if you gave her a reason to miss you she would have. Maybe if you gave her a reason to be happy that you're back she would be.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I am sure she does not hate sex or even dislike it. I just think it is not a thought in he rmind at all.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">That's because it's not one of her top needs. Meet some of her needs and maybe she'll want to meet some of yours.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> my W really isn't like a corpse in a morgue! A corpse is much WARMER!
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I realize you think you're being funny but this is NOT funny. I wonder how many deposits that statement would make into her Love Bank. If you're lucky she'll come onto this site for support...how happy she'll be when she finds out you've made these comments about her. Be dissatisfied with your sex life. That's fine. Provide details (tactfully). That's fine too. STOP CALLING HER A CORPSE!!!
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Just so you know, if I waste all this $$$ and don't have sex this month, it's all your fault. I could have spent it on a prostitute! Just kidding!
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Are you?
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> So I am in LOVE with W after breakup and now. Before that, it wasn't love. But as for her ... I don't know. Would W waste all this time with me if she wasn't </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Do you love her? Tell us why. And, yes, she might just stay with you even if she doesn't love you? Why? Perhaps you've succeeded in convincing her that you are the 'be all of men'. You seem to have no problem telling us how wonderful you are so I'm sure you're not having any problems telling her the same. If you talk to her like you talk to us I'm sure that she's feeling pretty emotionally beat up right now. Perhaps she feels she deserves you because she isn't worth better.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Of course, it would be nice if she thought about my NEEDS to. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Yes, that would be nice but how about you step up to the plate and make the first move...and the first move isn't buying her flowers and expecting sex...it's telling her about the A and working from there.
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Geez, everyone here is so smart. Why didn't you all come beating down my door before I had the affair with the Psycho ***** from hell? </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Would you have listened? Doesn't seem like you're listening now. If OW wasn't a psycho ***** from hell would you even be on this site right now?
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I know you are right. I know you are all right. I left on a business trip this morning and will be back home in a week or so. Then I'll do what has to be done. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">URG!!!!! You see, once again, your job comes first. Truthfully, what is more important, your job or your marriage? If you had to choose one which would it be? Get on the damn plane and GO HOME! Tell your boss you've got a family emergency and GO HOME!!!!! Tell your wife now! Show her you care about her by putting her FIRST not waiting until AFTER your job is done and you a second or two for her.
Finally Learning is right...this is NOT a joke. It is truly a horrible thing to go through. I know that I've been blunt and perhaps cruel in what I've said in this post. I do not mean to be hurtful but here's your 2x4 hitting you right upside the head. Sometimes we all need a wake up call. There are a lot of people here to help you and your wife through this difficult time. A lot of people have responded to your most recent posts so that should tell you that people really care about you...and it's not because you're so perfect that we all flock to you...it's because we know that when the fog finally lifts you're going to be crushed. Some people are WS, like yourself, and they've been there before. They understand what you're thinking and feeling and they know you have no clue what you're really in for 'when the games begin'. Some people are BS and they understand the journey your wife is about to take. There are two sides to every story...hopefully she will want to share hers and hopefully the wise people on this site will take you both under their wings and help you out...I'm sure they will.
