If anyone is interested in watching this. Stars Kim Delaney-looks interesting. 8 & 10 pm

<small>[ April 19, 2004, 06:16 PM: Message edited by: peaceandlove ]</small>

peace...I can't bear to watch movies like that any more...It hits way too close to home now <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> !

H wanted to watch it, but it already started <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Let us know how it ends! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

O

she is pg by H-but he leaves after DDay of A.
she says it was not PA-so baby is H.
it shows them at her mom's home talking & he brings baby gift & says he want to be there when it comes into world-but doesn't say what his commitment to her is-just ends.

I actually started watching it, but was interrupated; didn't get back to it.

Suggestion?

Movies like that are kinda like picking at scabs when you are living it.

I have done a thorough analysis on non-triggering TV for those with fresh wounds.

...Bugs Bunny & Roadrunner hour is a great bet. That roadrunner is faithful, he only screws the coyote.

once again a movie that shows all of what the WS feels and goes through. but the bs is the one who is left out. why do we constantly get portrayed like it is nothing? and just get over it and go on? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

I watched the beginning and had to turn it off.

We watched "Lost in Translation" this weekend. Horrible.

I watched the movie - Infidelity - and I think it put a new twist on her theory of infedility... I don't agree with it at all - but I think that movie tried to show that it was some cycle that she was brought up learning from her father - and somehow she thought it was the thing to do - and then her mother had known about it all of the time - and she accepted her husband to be a cheater because she wanted him for her husband... And the daughter after cheating herself had been disgusted with her mother for accepting her father as a cheater... And as for the end - I think that the husband brought the toy for the baby - but then when they started dancing together you were suppose to understand that it was ok and they were going to make it through it ok??? And Ms.Dian - could you please translate lost in translation for me - because I have no idea - what the heck that was about ?? I mean did Bill Murray cheat with Scarlett Johannsen??? Or did they just think about it??? And what the heck was she whispering in his ear when the movie ended???

Didn't see the lifetime movie. However, my FWW and I watched Lost in Translation a couple of months back. We had no idea what it was about when we rented it. Although it was a tough movie for me to watch I can really appreciate the film.

To me it shows how an A begins. I think that by the end of the film one sees an EA forming. For me the reason I appreciated the film so much, and at the same time the reason it was so hard to watch, was that I could look at the female character and see exactly how my W felt prior to her EA and what lead her down that destructive path. It puts a very human face on a terrible situation that I only knew from my BS point of view. These are just 2 terribly lost lonely people on the brink of making a terrible mistake.

The film leaves the ending undefined. As the film ended I hoped that they would take ownership of their lives and make them and their marriages better. However I can easily see how the characters would just as likely continue communicating with each other and becoming increasingly dependent and addicted to each other.

I do not condone my wifes EA. I do not blame myself and I do not take ownership of her emotions leading up to it. However after many conversations, seeing this film helped me understand the world she was living in and understanding helps me to forgive. I'm sure this won't be the case for everyone.

<small>[ April 20, 2004, 10:56 AM: Message edited by: jgnc ]</small>

peaceandlove...

I just want to make sure I am clear on your position...

you had a recent affair...
less than a month with no contact under your belt......

post little to none about the state of your marriage....

and have no plans of disclosing the affair to your spouse.......

if that is not correct please correct me..
if that is correct....
why are you on a marraige building site...

ark

ARK

<small>[ April 20, 2004, 11:42 AM: Message edited by: peaceandlove ]</small>

Lighten up-I thought we were here to help each other! If you dont want to help-then back off of me-advice like yours I dont need.
My story is posted in new member thread. I have been in MC since Sept. I dont expect everyone to understand me-I am hurting & just want the words of people who care. My H & I have been married for 26 years-so I think that proves how I feel about my marriage. I will not disclose my PA to him-because he has a family history of suicide-we all have a story-& you do not know all the details of my life. go help someone else. sounds like your just hear to tear WS down.

well peaceandlove...

I am hurting & just want the words of people who care

I understand clearly that you are hurting....
I happen to be one of those peoples that believe that honesty and truth is great way to alleviate a lot of your hurting....

the words of people who care are not always what we want to hear...but it is not equal to any amount of caring...

Very few reasons validate your choice to with-hold his right to make informed decisions about his life...having that thought does not make you and I enemies...there are many here that believe that as well...

and peaceandlove...I am sooo very uninterested in the OM...but care greatly for you and your husband and your marriage...

I pray that at some point in your life you will be willing to face that reality of your life...and quit wasting so much time focused on the OM.....

Perhaps it is of value exploring why my post of few words upset you so much....
because it was only seeking clarification...

my question stands without judgement blame or malace...
why are you on a marraige building site...

it is not something I wouldn't ask anyone else here...
be them WS, BS, OP...or even alien

perhaps you would like to answer it..
and perhaps some people really could help you...

ARK

<small>[ April 20, 2004, 01:38 PM: Message edited by: ark^^ ]</small>

I am here because I want to get advice to restore my marriage & help me & my H, to understand that we are not the only couple to experience this heartbreaking issue.
I had no idea of this site until 1 month ago, I was doing research for an essay for class, and found it on Focus on the Family site. If I would have been here earlier (before Nov-PA) maybe I could have approached OM & A so differently.
I take responsibility for me, and what I did, I have no different justifications than any other WS here-I just am sensitive to all here. I did not mean to be so defensive-it just seems that I will spend the rest of my days apologizing to everyone...
I am sorry I am sorry I am sorry
I am a terrible woman, I loved OM
I cant unlove him overnite
I love my H
I cant hurt him anymore...
somehow-someway-someday-I will tell him,
but only I know when that is best.
I am not a liar to my H.
I have asked him, "is there anything you want to know that I not answered?"
he said "no-I will never push or pry"
I said-"I am protecting you"
he said "from what?"
I said "details-intimate details"
he has never asked again-that was 2 weeks ago,
I have told H I called OM & no answer
I have told H OM changed his email
I have told H I loved OM
I have told my H that he is the only one that will ever make me happy, I have apologized for all the heartbreak between us.
we are both trying to move forward.
I admit my withdrawal is intense at times, I am human, I am weak, I give in when it hurts too much. I know what I need to do-everyone has said NC-that is what I am praying for, to lessen my need to talk to OM, it is hard when it is someone that I shared so much with-
I am realistic, OM told me what he knew I needed to hear to get me to fall for him-it worked.
please please stay open to my moods-good days-
& really really sh***y days-thanks for listening-
the time you have taken to even have an interest in me is appreciated-pal