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#1129333 04/20/04 09:45 PM
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My husband is now being blackmail by OW if he does not write her a reference letter, she will tell his bosses to get him fired. My husband will not file court papers, so is there anyother way to take care of this? He will be home soon. I believe that he needs to tell his boss and let them take care of her.

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"I would hate to resort to blackmail..."

Help!!

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Uhm, what is she going to blackmail him with, their affair?

My response to that would be simple: Tell the bosses myself first, and provide a copy of her letter threatening blackmail.

In other words, call the bluff. Completely and with full disclosure to everybody.

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Yep. Honesty is the best policy.

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This is one of those consequences that come from having an A. I agree with the others that your H needs to have an open/honest conversation with his boss, and give him a copy of OW's letter.

Dealing with consequences isn't easy, but it's something that has to be worked through. He can't run away forever.

Lori


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