I am so devastated. I cant imagine life without her, but she has confessed to not loving me, and given up on trying to make anything beter between us. she has been emotionaly envolved with someone over the internet she has known since she was 17. I agreed during th emoment earlier today to leave, and let her stay int eh house, but the more i think about it that is very unfair to me. I now think we should sell the house and both have to rough it. I still love her terribly tho so i know I am just gong to let her have whatever she wants. My life has lost all purpose and direction, I dont know how I will make it, what i will do with myself. I worry about my wife because whe is very depressed. I wish with all my heart that she could be happy, because when she is happy, i am happy. I am so proud to have married her. I feel so rejected. I feel like such a failure. I hate crying.

Well in my opinion, the one who wants to leave the marriage, should leave the house. You are making this too easy for her. I would insist she leave, and then start working the MB program - Plan A.

You can read all about it in the Just Found Out section under the Welcome All New Builders thread. It will be miserable at first, but things do get better.

I'm with believer on this one. She wants to leave the marriage, she should be the one to leave.

dewt