What a mess I've become involved in. Let's see if I can keep it brief but understandable.

I grew up with a girl I'll call Kelly and we have remained friends through the years. We see each other occasionally and talk often. She is 45. In
college I met a woman I'll call Renee. She was in a few of my classes although she was much older. She returned to school after her H had left her for his OW. She and I became close and I even dated her son for a while. She is now 65.

Through the years Renee has talked about her one true love whom she never forgot, Allen. They had planned to be married but while she was away at school he got another women pregnant and they "had" to get married. Renee told me she never stopped loving that man.

Fast forward to today. I met Renee for lunch and she told me that she and Allen had run into each other about 3 weeks ago and had started dating and that it was "just as she knew it would be" and that she "still loved him like she did 45 years ago".

I'm sure you're all seeing the path this is taking. Allen is my friend Kelly's father and I didn't know it until today. Sooooooo my friend is having an affair with my other friend's father. It's mind boggling. I know Allen and his wife I just never made the connection. I tried to talk to Renee about this and how she was hurting his wife but she doesn't care. She says she and Allen deserve the happiness that was taken from them so long ago.

What do I do? I don't want to see any of them because I don't know how to handle this. Advice needed please!!!

<small>[ April 21, 2004, 06:47 PM: Message edited by: TinyDancer ]</small>

I don't know what to say, or how to help, so I'll crack a joke. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I think I need a picture or diagram to understand this situation.

Ok, I hope you get a chuckle out of this, and back to more serious marriage building.

Tony

Hi TD - how's recovery going?

Does Kim = Kelly? I got confused there.

I suggest you hunker down and do what you know is right.

You know what to do.

Advise both Renee and Allen that what they're doing is wrong and that you intend to inform Allen's wife and his daughter.

Then do it.

By helping Renee and Allen keep their secret, you are being nobody's friend, and you're participating in the affair.

You know this.

Maybe you should buy several copies of SAA and hand them out.

WAT

Tony, I wouldn't even want to attempt to make that diagram lol

Yes Kim = Kelly. Geez I'm not good at make-believe names. I know I have to tell. I can not protect them and what they are doing. That advice about SAA is pretty good. Maybe I'll buy several copies and hand them out.

You asked about recovery WAT and I guess you could say we're hanging on and doing better. H even attempts to meet my needs now and then. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I don't pretend that doing the right thing is easy.

Neither is giving blood. Well, that's a LOT easier, but you get my point.

You HAVE to do it.

Remember to tell Allen's wife about this site. Perhaps write it down in all the copies of SAA.

WAT

I just have one question...who the heck is Kim <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

I agree, you need to expose it...wow, what a mess! And now your in the middle <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />