Here is the communication we've received from OW since DDay 2 4/9.
4/12 WH decides to write NC letter. OW calls from girlfriend's house and leaves a voice mail from breaking it off, requesting to never hear or see WH again. No letter is sent, we figure OW requested NC.
4/15 WH's business partner Joe has lunch with OW asking her to volunteer (not paid) for a fun summer project (WH and OW would spend a lot of time together - it's like OW purposefully signing up for the softball team my WH is coaching).
4/26 WH finds about OW working on volunteer project asks me what to do. We decide, perhaps stupidly, to contact the OW's girlfriend to say OW working on the project is a bad idea. WH said it's cruel to me and asks if OW would back out. (I know, this might've not been the best strategy but this is what happened - at least we made the mistake together).
4/28 OW calls partner Joe and says that she will not work on the summer project because WH asked her not to. OW then calls WH, leaves voice mail and asks in a snotty voice for WH to please call her. WH and I talk strategy and it seems like there is no right way to address OW. She can't even keep her own NC - it seems like she is just trying to get her foot in the door. So far we've decided not call OW back, but we made that decision late last night and we're SLOW.
Also, we have decided that we need to tell WH's business partners about OW (not the gory details -just enough) and if she calls WH will not answer, but if he does on accident (she calls from work sometimes) he'll say goodbye and hang up. If she sends him any snail mail, we'll return to sender. They never used e-mail, because I check WH's e-mail from work for him.
So, what should we do? Just ignore her? Send her a NC letter? Our NC letter after DDay 1 was a joke - because it was broken the next day. Plus, any contact seems to just encourage her.
