I know this is a step in the right direction, but help me see this constructively...

I feel like if he's so sure he doesn't want to be with her, that he's getting his own place - why doesn't he move home??? He claims he's moving out because he wants to have our kids overnight and stuff, but truly, that CAN'T be the only reason.

Some major stuff about her went down last week that really angered him. He's seeing things a little differently, he says. He emailed me that "sometimes it takes events like these to make pivotal changes in your life" and that he was "optimistic".

He is still careful to not give me any hope about our reconciliation. He is not like most WH's who say that it's not possible, or that he doesn't love me anymore. We just don't talk about it.

All we do (for the most part) is talk about the kids, work, and laugh a little. There are some lingering looks here and there, and a hug every once in a while, but that's it.

I've been gone for a while because everyone thinks I should be in Plan B, but here I am, still Plan A'ing away - WITH SH'S KNOWLEDGE and semi-approval. I am still counseling with him, and he agrees with how I'm handling things as long as I'm able to keep the LBing under control.

So, anyway, please help me see that this move is a step in the right direction.......

Thanks,
- WHB

Please don't stay away from here because everyone is telling you to do something that you are not ready to do. Every circumstance is different and everyone moves at their own pace.

Sounds to me like he wants to get a little space from OW.

Thanks, believer.

I know he's getting sick of OW's ways. I can't believe it's taken him this long to see some of them. The bottom line for him was when she insulted me in my own home (another post all together! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> ).

I guess I am scared that he will LIKE the single living - he's always been somewhat of a loner. Oh well, there's nothing I can do about it. I should just let her continue to dig her own grave - that'll at least take one HUGE hump out of our recovery process (if there is to be one).