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I am trying to forgive H over A. EA is still continuing, but H wants to try. We have continued to be sexual active, but I am getting images during sex that I hate. We were both inexperienced (married young)and we learned together. I am struggling with what H did. Is H making comparisions? Was OW better? Would OW do things I didn't? How do you cope?
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Hi MJT, I don't know that I can be of any help. Sex seems to be the only time I don't think about the 2 of them together. My triggers are more emotional ones. Things he said to her, things he said to me, and wondering what his true feelings were/are.
I do know that it's completely normal. There's no way you aren't ever going to wonder those things. I wonder too. I wonder if she would do things I wouldn't, but my mind wanders that way at other times, not during sex. There have been a couple sexual things about him that have changed since the affair and I wonder if she is the reason.
I can't say how I cope, maybe I don't really.
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by MJTneedshelp:
<strong> I am trying to forgive H over A. EA is still continuing, but H wants to try. We have continued to be sexual active, but I am getting images during sex that I hate. We were both inexperienced (married young)and we learned together. I am struggling with what H did. Is H making comparisions? Was OW better? Would OW do things I didn't? How do you cope? </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">MJ, how will you recover if the affair is still ongoing?
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