That is the question I am having such a hard time with. WHY? I don't believe that it was because I'm not a baseball fan! WHY would he (or any man) abandon his wife of so many years and his biological child/children for a woman who set out to harm us all?
He's back with me but I still am having such a hard time with the why's. I'm still having a hard time believing he could love me and do this to me. I WANT to believe he does because thinking that he doesn't hurts so much.
Why does anyone do this? How can they even consider falling for a woman who WANTS to hurt their family? The standard excuse is "she didn't do it to hurt anyone" that doesn't change the fact that she knew that having a relationship with him would be devastating to his wife and hurt his children. Why would any man want a woman who purposely hurts the people he claims to love? It seems that the man in these relationships always leave their kids behind while the OW brings hers with her to start a new life, a life they hijacked from someone else.
When they say I promise to love and blah blah blah, forsaking all others blah blah blah, they left out the part about "until some piece of trash comes along. When that happens I'll hand her a grenade, pull the pin and say "go ahead, it's your intent to destroy my family and I'm here to help you do that. Toss it into the living room and we can live happily ever after, I can just forget they ever existed".
Sometimes reading this site is a great help. Sometimes it's just the opposite. There's quite a few posts about WS' leaving for the OP, every time I read another one of those it sends me back to the worst day in my life, and I feel all those emotions all over again. I don't know any of you, but I am really so sorry for what you are going through <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> I don't think that anyone who hasn't been there could understand. Even those who have been betrayed but their spouse never left can't understand how horrible it is when they leave.
<small>[ April 27, 2004, 04:58 AM: Message edited by: toomanylies ]</small>
