Its been 3 years since I saw that gift and discovered he was seeing someone (long distance while on business etc) He denied everything said I imagained it all. Since then , he has been a really good husband. I forgave affair but I can't get pass the lying about it. It is no use to talk we only argue, Its a he said ,she said situation. Dead end subject now. I tried for along time to get him to open up so I could get closure. I could never get through to him, he just said I imagined it all and was causing trouble NOW in the marriage. He is a highly principled man and I think he has his reasons for not being able to talk about it. I don't think he sees her and it was never a question of marrying her, was a friendship he needed at the time. I understand why he needed her. We did discuss our marriage and our major problem was dealt with and is no longer a problem. I don't undersand how a man can love someone and watch them go through emotional hell for 2 years. I was so depressed and not sleeping, crying all the usual things, but , this last year is better for me and I sleep better etc but it is often on my mind and I resent the fact that he denies me the truth so I can put this behind us. I have tried everything from writing to him, talking, saw 3 MC, all believed I didn't imagine anything b ut bottom line is, move on they say. If he hasn't talked now he won't. I just can't let it go and I want to. I can't get through to him the importance of honesty. He lied to me simple as that and I don't understand why. ANy ideas why he can lie so easily knowing I know the truth and yet turn around and be the nicest husband you could want. ??????
