This week I have been giving my W a ride to work in the am.
Monday she was sick, I took her to work, she talked to her boss and they sent her home. I waited for her outside and took her back to her home. During my lunch hour I left work, picked her up lunch and took it to her. After work I picked up dinner and dropped it off. She was supposed to have our son Monday night but she didnt want him to catch her cold.

Tuesday she was still sick but made it halfway thru the day, she called me at work and I took her back to her home during my lunch hour, she was feeling slightly better but not quite well enough to watch our son that night and didnt want him to get sick.

Wednesday she was better and made it thru the whole day and got a ride home. After work I called her and took her dinner. She said she didnt feel well enough to watch our son and wanted to "clean" the house before he comes over so he doesnt get sick when she watches him Thursday. Tonight is "ladies nite" at the corner bar where she has been going. She knows that I know its "ladies night" I have a feeling that is where she is at tonight instead of home where she said she was going to be and gave me the impression that she was going to stay home.

When I pick her up Thursday am Ill know for sure if she went or not. I am 99.9999999% sure she will go and not "sick enough" to stay home or watch our child. Guess I'll see where her priorities are.

Question:
If I find that she did go after playing the "sick" card and "don't want to get our son sick" card, how would you approach this?

Would you approach it as "guess you werent sick enough to go to the bar" or how?

p.s. I called her home at 1030 and she didnt answer, she normally does. She may say "I was sleeping" but I will know definitively in the am if she went to the bar or not.

<small>[ April 28, 2004, 09:43 PM: Message edited by: HunterFox ]</small>

So Hunter, is your wife having an affair(s)? Your sig tag-line doesn't offer that info, so that's why I ask.

If so, and if you are in Plan A, then it would be an LB to confront her with a possible lie, no? It would only serve to make her angry, IMHO, if you ask.

You say you'll know for sure by the a.m., so use that knowledge for yourself. It will tell you whether or not your wife is still in the FOG. Unfortuntely, lying to a spouse is part and parcel when adultery has invaded a marriage.

It sounds like you're meeting her needs for domestic support really good. Just draw your boundaries and do not become a doormat.

Good Luck,
Jo

<small>[ April 28, 2004, 09:56 PM: Message edited by: Resilient ]</small>